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Don't mind me

Nobody wants to fall in love with a mentally unstable crazy psychopath.
Nobody wants to fall in love with a trainwreck.

No matter what you've gone through. No matter how much someone has hurt you. No matter how much you've suffered.
If you're the type of person that carries the baggage of your past trauma into your present daily life, with no intentions or effort of moving on whatsoever, those that love you and care for you will shield themselves first.

It is hard to let go of the past. It is hard to forget the traumatizing experiences you've been through. It is damn near impossible to forgive those that have wronged you.
But you can't live in the past forever.
What's done is done. If you want people to love you and care for you, you need to work on yourself and get those issues sorted out.

There's a popular saying - If you can't handle me at my worst, then you don't deserve me at my best.
How often are you at your worst? Is it several times in a day? Once a week? Once a month?
Nobody wants to handle you at your worst. A healthy relationship isn't about handling people at their worst. It's about preventing people from becoming their worst. If someone loves you and cares for you at the present, they don't want you to be constantly reminding them of your terrible past. Your past has got nothing to do with them.

I've seen many people dragging on about their horrible past, recounting the details of their abusive exes and reliving the memories of what they put them through. Yet they seem to be totally oblivious to their own flaws and present inadequacies.

I feel sad for them. I feel sorry for them. No matter how strong the urge is for me to step forward and say something comforting, I can't help but notice their repetitive cycle of mourning about their past, snapping on those who try to help them, and drowning themselves in the sorrows of self pity and loathe.
If you're constantly living in the past, would it do justice to those that love you and care for you at the present?

Unless you start working on being at your best, intelligent people will keep you at arm's length. And the stupid ones that do get close to you, probably won't walk the mile with you.
18 years old and 21 years old is too young to start living in your past. You've got a whole life ahead of you, and you're missing all the best that life has to offer right now. I've seen 45 year olds and 55 year olds do the same thing. They've grown accustomed the habit of self loathe, self pity and desperate cries for attention.
I think people need to be more introspective and ask themselves, is this the life they really want to live? If not, what are they working on right now?

 
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