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Students have no respect

Okay so I tried to tell some of the stuff that we’re going to do letters with me, they looked disappointed and said, “Awwwwww”
And “No!! I don’t want to do it with you!!” “We want to do it with Mrs (her name).”
So when I went on with the lesson, some were being disruptive and rude to me. I asked who wants to try and none of them wanted to do it. One was like, “No!”
“Don’t look at me. I won’t say it to you!”
I was just having a hard time. The teacher said, “Just be FIRM. They need to do it and you’re the teacher.”
I tried too but they left and ran around. I looked at the other teachers and they just gave me that “Oh well” or “I’m not helping you” look.
It was the worst. After the lesson, now I’m emotional and about to cry. It is like ever since I’ve gotten so strict and more stern they don’t respect me still. They’re more scared of me. Mrs (her name) is stern but the students love her. What am I doing wrong? Even the two students that respected me didn’t want to listen to me and yelled hurtful things to me. 😭😭😭😭
LilSapphieGirl · 26-30, F
You seem to not grasp the idea of being "Firm, but fair". You need to have a spine to keep them in line, but make sure that it's when they are acting out like that. They need to learn their place and that whining, complaining, and acting out isn't going to get them anywhere in life.

You reward those with good, acceptable behavior. Those who do not, even if it's the majority, get the whip cracked -- figuratively speaking.
When my classmates were being disruptive, my teachers were not afraid to pause the lesson and raise their voice -- assert their authority. We got a lot of "Sit there quietly", heads on desk time, extra work... Stuff like that. The singles that were extra disruptive for no good reason got extra punishments. Written up, detentions, etc., etc. Sometimes even a phone call to home.
When the class had a good streak of good behavior, sometimes we'd get some time to just screw around and be kids. Sometimes we would have less homework for the day. Sometimes we'd have outside time or a video lesson.

You need to learn when to be firm and how, and when to reward them and how. It gets difficult and emotional, but you need to settle into that role. You're there not only to teach them various subjects, but also teach them right from wrong.
Iamonfire666 · 31-35, F
[@1081432,LilSapphieGirl] 💯 agree
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@1081432,LilSapphieGirl] yeah you have a point. I work with preschool aged kids. I yelled well, raised my voice to the kids to go sit at their table for being rude. I shouldn’t have yelled
LilSapphieGirl · 26-30, F
[@1023345,DizzyLizzy94] It has a time and a place, but if it isn't followed with an appropriate punishment for them, they won't grow to learn or respect you.
Carazaa · F
Awww, you'll do ok with time. I would bring some rewards in a box for them to pick out after an activity, smile and tell them that they will do a fun activity and that you will reward the first one done, and the best one, and the one with a great attitude. Show them you are caring and excited to be there.
Carazaa · F
[@1023345,DizzyLizzy94] Maybe you can tell them that you feel overwhelmed and you would love to have some help from them? If they don't want to help then don't worry about them just ask someone in the class to be a helper each day.
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@6949,xmedleft] I understand that but they work in the same classroom as me
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@889684,Carazaa] I guess that can help
smiler2012 · 56-60, M
{@dizzylizzy94] how old are these kids then . i think it time to stop the softly softly and start stamping your mark . these kids need to remember you are the teacher and if you give them an instruction they are meant to do it without question .they might not like the new you but you have tried to be lenient and given them leeway
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@3749,smiler2012] True. They’re preschool
Carazaa · F
[@1023345,DizzyLizzy94] If they are preschool then what works best is to be super sweet and happy to see them, and offer stickers and rewards to everyone and lots of praise. Make things fun!
xmedleft · 51-55, M
It is best to start stern and let up around Thanksgiving. If you start less-than-stern and try to toughen up later then it won't work.
The old expression was never let them see you smile until almost Christmas.
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@6949,xmedleft] I guess that’s why the students don’t respect me if like me much. Since I’ve became more stricter/stern they seemed more scared of me or ignore me
I agree with Carazaa, treats, bring out your sense of humor and work with that. Get a conversation going! Kids are tough but you can do it.
funloving1 · 13-15, M
[@1023345,DizzyLizzy94] It's never too late to look for a new profession something your suited to. Would it not be better to be honest with yourself then to continue harming children?
[@706723,funloving1] Why are you trying to discourage her? She's not going to give up a professional career over one bad day! Stop it!!!😡
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@706723,funloving1] I don’t want to give up. I’m not going to!
Riemann · 31-35, M
You are awesome. :)
These are kids.
Sounds like teens?
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@1189039,mondayschild2] precl
funloving1 · 13-15, M
So your question is what are you doing wrong?

I think it's quite clear you have chosen the wrong profession. It seems as if you are not suited to work with young children.
DizzyLizzy94 · 26-30, F
[@706723,funloving1] I really want to but I can’t do it’ my biggest mistake was majoring in education. I’m almost done but I’m so dumb thinking I can be a teacher. Some say if I don’t change my ways or run the class, I shouldn’t be a teacher at all.
She blocked me😂
Don't listen to her she is a quitter!!
funloving1 · 13-15, M
[@1189039,mondayschild2] It took a bit of time but I'm glad you've come over to my side.
[@706723,funloving1] Moron!

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