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Starsandfire · 31-35, F
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
But when you bring it up to the person they reject it completely like “what are you talking about ?” “no one does that” “you’re being sensitive” 🙄🤷🏼♀️
Seem familiar?
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Seem familiar?
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Starsandfire · 31-35, F
@DeluxedEdition absolutely. It's horrible.
everyoneknows · 31-35, T
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everyoneknows · 31-35, T
@DeluxedEdition thats really a unacceptable form of punishment because spexially if your still developing, not eating hinders all your physical emotional mental development.. even if youralreasy an adult is not ok. its better a beating.
but she probably was too ignorant to know it could affect you in the future
but she probably was too ignorant to know it could affect you in the future
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
@everyoneknows i look at it like this
they are in Georgia and i moved to Florida 300+ miles away from their psycho asses, and I'm just going to do my best to try to reprogram my dysfunctional upbringing to not pass it onto my children.
and they are very ignorant and i feel ignorant too honestly i should have went to the school and told on their asses
they are in Georgia and i moved to Florida 300+ miles away from their psycho asses, and I'm just going to do my best to try to reprogram my dysfunctional upbringing to not pass it onto my children.
and they are very ignorant and i feel ignorant too honestly i should have went to the school and told on their asses
everyoneknows · 31-35, T
@DeluxedEdition i meant ignorant in general you dont need to go to school to not be ignorant tbh if i hadnt gone to school i would be even less ignorant than now 😑
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
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@DeluxedEdition Someone keeps gaslighting me and when I point it out he tells me how many psychologists he knows and none of them have the problem I have, so I am making it up.
(I've not met his psychologist friends.)😂
(I've not met his psychologist friends.)😂
tddyd9 · 61-69, M
Yeah basically, you can not have a conversation with a gaslighter, just pound your head against the wall instead
adorbz · 26-30, F
absolutely
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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
So true @SW-User
TheLordOfHell · 41-45
Yah sounds like it
TexChik · F
Oh I don’t care . If they are not a trusted friend I giv’em both barrels and remove them from My SW experience if they continue bothering me . Life is too short to let a SM site upset you for longer than a second or two
OzDiver · 61-69, M
Yep. That's textbook gaslighting.
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It sounds like it. A lot of what I say is in jest, but I try to be sure people understand that. Its not always easy in text conversations.
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
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MethDozer · M
It could be but probably not, depends on the intention. Gaslighting has a very specific intention of directed manipulating a person into believing they are crazy or to question their grasp of reality.
Just saying you didn't see something you did or backpedaling on a comment isn't gaslighting. Now if you did something with the intention of backpedaling and convincing them it didn't happen for the purpose of making them question their own perception that's what gaslighting is. It's another specific term that has been waterdown by general public overuse
quote] Gaslighting is a form of sustained psychological manipulation that causes the victim to question or doubt his or her sanity, judgment, and memories. [/quote]
[quote] Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment.[1] It may evoke changes in them such as cognitive dissonance or low self-esteem, rendering the victim additionally dependent on the gaslighter for emotional support and validation. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction and disinformation,[2] gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's beliefs. [/quote]
Just saying you didn't see something you did or backpedaling on a comment isn't gaslighting. Now if you did something with the intention of backpedaling and convincing them it didn't happen for the purpose of making them question their own perception that's what gaslighting is. It's another specific term that has been waterdown by general public overuse
quote] Gaslighting is a form of sustained psychological manipulation that causes the victim to question or doubt his or her sanity, judgment, and memories. [/quote]
[quote] Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgment.[1] It may evoke changes in them such as cognitive dissonance or low self-esteem, rendering the victim additionally dependent on the gaslighter for emotional support and validation. Using denial, misdirection, contradiction and disinformation,[2] gaslighting involves attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's beliefs. [/quote]
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basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
MethDozer · M
@DeluxedEdition I mean your example isn't necessarily gaslighting. There's not enough in the example to qualify, but where you elaborated the story in a response it kinda looks more like a possibility.
The thing is gaslighting has a long term intent and planned set ups.
The thing is gaslighting has a long term intent and planned set ups.
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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
@TheBlackPowerRanger this question is referring to my grandmother. she is a wonderful person, but god knows she has her fair share of problems.
she will straight up go up to my mom and tell her she is getting fat, and then my mom will get mad. and then my grandmother likes to play it off like a joke and go as far as getting mad at us, and even making us apologize to her. she will say we are sensitive, which is why we don't understand her humor. 🤣
she is a very angry miserable person. she is always talking shit or has something bad to say about something or someone
she will straight up go up to my mom and tell her she is getting fat, and then my mom will get mad. and then my grandmother likes to play it off like a joke and go as far as getting mad at us, and even making us apologize to her. she will say we are sensitive, which is why we don't understand her humor. 🤣
she is a very angry miserable person. she is always talking shit or has something bad to say about something or someone
SumKindaMunster · 51-55, M
PicturesOfABetterTomorrow · 41-45, M
It is definitely a gaslighting tactic. The term can also refer to a pattern of this sort of behavior to the point where the victim no longer trusts their own perception of reality. The goal of such behavior is to get the person to a point where they dismiss their own judgement because they are at a point that they have been convinced they are the irrational one.
4meAndyou · F
Yes, that's one of the classics. Saying something really hurtful and toxic, and if you become angry, they immediately say, "Can't you take a joke? I was just kidding."
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Tequila · 22-25, F
beat up that person ;)
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Benjr134 · M
It is manipulation but it isn’t gaslighting. Gaslighting is literally when a partner or group try and make you question your actual memories. Like they did something to you and make you think it actually didn’t happen. It’s mostly emotional manipulation. Making you question your emotions rather than your memories. Like you responded to them inappropriately despite then making the insult.
Stopmakingsense · 56-60, F
No, that's lying.
Gaslighting is when somebody who has been deaf for eighteen years answers the phone and recognizes the caller's voice. Then, when the caller screams "Dad! You can hear me!" He answers "I'm very busy right now, do you mind if I call you back?" And nobody in the family ever mentions the missing deafness- ever. Even when the caller tried to bring it up.
Gaslighting is when somebody who has been deaf for eighteen years answers the phone and recognizes the caller's voice. Then, when the caller screams "Dad! You can hear me!" He answers "I'm very busy right now, do you mind if I call you back?" And nobody in the family ever mentions the missing deafness- ever. Even when the caller tried to bring it up.
Thorstormbringer · M
This is now the common ploy.
Isn’t it?
Isn’t it?
