What would u choose between 2 dates?

@DarlingSelah I don't have either. I guess you can block me

@Dan193 we arent dating??

@DarlingSelah oof, that's some way to announce the break up

@SW-User very well said. And actually I did have a crush on 2 before 1 showed up. The thing is at the time 2 had a bf and I thought that I could just mess around with 1 in the meantime, but it got me stuck in this thing where I actually seriously consider her now. 2 still has a bf, but she let me understand that she is ready to move on.

@Dan193 Relationships are difficult when the person you really feel you are good to be with isn't available so you hook up with someone else. You can either find the right person that way or it can all turn out badly. Hopefully it works out for you.

@SW-User thanks man

@Allelse believe me, she IS amazing. Like I used to tell people that I admire her so much, like I want to be just like her. And she always makes me feel special.

@iamelijah people like to believe that they can change their partners, but you're right

@Dan193 You can't change your partner's personality easily but definitely you can change their shape. From flat to curve or working out at the gym.

Unless.... They don't want it.. Uh.. That would be a bummer. 😕

@iamelijah I think so too, but I'm an instant gratification kind of person.

@quitwhendone so u stuck with her?
And I kinda feel similar in this situation with the personality girl, I don't want to date her and then break her heart. She is just too precious to me.

@Dan193 Yeah. And I'm still friends with the other one.

@quitwhendone do u ever get bored of your girlfriend? And wish u chose different?

@Dan193 It sounded like one had the body of a 10 and the personality of a 1 while the other had the opposite. Find a 7 on both scales 😏

@BeefySenpie you'd live your life with a 7?

@Dan193 When did a date become my life 🤔

@KA9ha tell me more about the deep see. I don't get the analogy

@SW-User I see. Where is he on the spectrum? Hot body or the personality ?

@Dan193 He has average looks but to me he looks perfect 😭. And an outstanding personality.

@midnightsun I see. I appreciate the honesty, some people refuse to admit it.

@AnonymouslyYours what if the person with a rockin body made advances on you?

I’m not selfish—I’d share myself with her too.@Dan193

@AnonymouslyYours so rockin body it is

@Iwillwait what if she had the personality, but was a bit dumb?

@Dan193 I don't think that is possible. "The Personality," for me encompasses intelligence.

@Iwillwait ok

@BiasForAction personality of number 1 is shit. It's basically my personality but a lot more shy.
The body of number 2 is: she is cute, like pretty face, fabulous hair, but very skiny and a vegan.

@Dan193 #2 it is. One must consider the combined total of body and personality.

@BiasForAction I just don't want to break her heart.
Are u married? I mean do u have somebody that u chose to be with for the rest of your life?

@WSEIII I'm not dating either. I'm undecided. Like logic says that I should go for the personality girl, but the rockin body girl has me charmed.

@Coralmist but don't u want a partner with a rocking body?

@Dan193 Not really a priority. If it was something he liked or had then I'm not blind to aesthetics, but is it something I truly CARE about?? No.

@Coralmist I see. Good on you.

@Lilymoon what if the rockin body person is making advances at you?

@Dan193 ahhhh date 'em both 🤭

@Lilymoon so rockin body it is

@SW-User to not be alone anymore

@SW-User did u have to make that choice before?

@Dan193 nope .... never did have rocking body ... just an ok personality

@Dan193 Assuming it is an either or (or majorly skewed to either side); If I am dating someone or looking to date someone, I do it with the intent of finding a long-term partner. Good looks is a nice bonus, sure, but I actually want to enjoy spending time with her too. I want someone I can engage in good conversations with, share passions with, who makes me laugh and have a great time, someone who'll keep my interests piqued even if I should turn blind.

To use an incredibly shitty allegory which hopefully still gets my point across: It's like finding a plate on which someone has used a thin layer of chocolate sauce to draw a fantastic piece of art. Looks good, tastes good then and there, but I'll probably close to just as hungry afterwards. A stew may not always look exclusive, but can be incredibly tasty and a fulfilling meal.

Not knocking on people who look good and saying they can't have amazing personalities too, but you seemed to present it as if it was either a rocking body or an amazing personality, not both.

@PirateMonkeyCabinet Thank you so much for the answer. The thing that a bit frightens me is that I don't want to break her heart. She is too precious to me. Also her father passed away very recently, and I feel like everytime we talk her mood goes up, and I am glad to be that for her, but... it's like I care too much about her and I don't want to ruin her life.

@Dan193 Understandable. It's hard to find the right path to take at times. Gotta figure out what matters to you, and what you think is the right thing to do by her.