Someone posted the same thing earlier, you two should talk

Maybe your into women?

Keep distance while talking or interacting with anyone and also understand people's mindset why they wanna touch you if reason isn't pervert avoid thinking for it , if you still can't avoid that means you are born in wrong generation in this era nobody thinks so deep on this

One of my sons has always recoiled a little bit from hugs. He has never been cuddly. And he really startles more than most people when someone enters his space unexpectedly. He’s in his early thirties and I wonder if he is “on the spectrum.”

It's definitely a mental process that is fear or phobia based. Really think about what it could be. Anxiety? Bad previous relationship? If it really begins affecting you, you may have to see someone professional.

Maybe you're afraid to get close to a man because you fear being abandoned. Maybe someone, some guy, who was once in your life left you and you never really got over it. You're afraid of affection. It attaches you to people, so you use this as a defense mechanism.

This happens to me too, especially if I'm not expecting to be touched.

I think it's a simple self protection response

I understand. It's called being Asexual.

This as an old post now, are things still the same for you?

It is ok to be wary of others

I'd say, find a remote corner in a men's sauna and heal. Maybe it's just me.

People actually go to therapy for this sort of thing, where the therapist gradually introduces increasing levels of touch.

But maybe you can do something without a therapist. If part of the recoil reaction is being taken by surprise, can you try this?

Is there someone you trust who you can confide in, and with whom you can spend some prolonged time in "structured touching". Maybe start with holding hands until you are comfortable. Then maybe a hand on a shoulder. that sort of thing. All the while, talking to each other about what is going through your head.

(I definitely am not talking about anything sexual here.)