Should I tell my ex?

Me and my ex dated for a few months but ended things on a mutual note. We remained pretty close after. Lately we’ve both been busy so it’s been a lot less closer. Last week his close friend messaged me on Instagram and we actually get along very well. We met up at a park with our dogs, had fun, and decided to make plans for the next day (since he didn’t work). He actually went out to lunch with my ex that day before we hung out. Eventually he made a move but I stopped him at first. I told him it was a bit weird because Im technically his friends ex and there is rules about this kind of stuff. He asked what my relationship was like with my ex and I told him we were still friends. He admitted it was a bit weird but that he really liked me and wish we met under different circumstances. He offered to continue things in secret which is where we are at now. I said I don’t like being a secret but that I do like him. When he made another move I let him. Now we kiss and go on dates (well have gone on one since). He even asked me to be his date for an event 3 weeks from now. My ex asked to hang out right now and I’m about to see him. It’s going to be the first time I see him since I started talking to his friend. I’m supposed to see his friend tomorrow for another date. I feel a little strange because I know there’s nothing between me and my ex and we are cool with each other. I just don’t know if he’s going to be upset with either of us. I feel like he would just be weirded out but I’m not certain. Should I tell him we are just friends or what we’ve been doing ?What if his friend doesn’t want me to say anything?

Quoththeraven

The fact that the “friend” of the ex is willing to sneak around and to lie a lie of omission to his friend should be a warning sign. If he’s will to do that now what’s he willing to do to you later if you two get serious and he finds someone he likes better.

Oster1 · M

To be honest and non judgmental, I see a lot of flaws with this. First off, I do not like the disloyalty involved. I would never hit on my buddies girl, after they broke up. Secondly, I really don’t like the “secret”. I just feel like this whole thing is going to blow up! And bigly! To me, the best thing you can do is let your past relationship heal, spend time, by yourself and move on. When the next Mr. right, makes his play, you will be a new and fresh woman.......the call, of course......is yours to make:)

saintsong · 41-45, F

If you hang out with your ex he may feel like it’s not over between you two and may feel betrayed that you are seeing his friend He is an ex for a reason leave him be! Don’t be playing both guys! Choose one and move on. Think of the consequences you telling him would have are you just seeing him to tear him apart? Wait until the third date and see how things go with the other guy. But I would cancel with the ex seeing him sends mixed signals to him and is unfair to your new date! God bless!