What gives a woman the right to refuse things she doesn't want to do ?

Same as men do.

the same thing that gave people the right to take over foreign lands.

power
pure and simple

The same thing that gives you the right to refuse.

Anything for a dickhead with that thought?

What gives it not? 🙄

Freedom of choice, where it is protected by law. Where it isn't, such as being arrested, none of us have any choice.