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I am feeling left from the institutions in my country 😞

Since 17th December 2021 my mother lives with me because she is not able to live longer alone.

And I am nursing her and doing as much for her as I can - beside my main job and my two side jobs which I have to do that we don´t lose our home. 😞

Directly in front of our house is the church. But it is not that ANYBODY from there comes to my mother although they KNOW how sick she is. Well... since four years Mrs. Pastor PROMISED to visit my mother... that´s at least something. 😒
May my mother sink in loneliness because although I care very much for her it is not good when my face is the only one she will see until the end of her life... 😒

The second thing is that my mother´s diabetes is getting out of control.
A few weeks ago she would have had an appointment with her doctor - but I had to cancel the appointment because my mother was not able to go downstairs. And I can´t carry her - at least not four stairs downstairs.

Actually I asked before a special institution to give my mother a "special label." It is a label that she is almost not more able to walk. And with this label a special kind of ambulance would come and carry my mother downstairs. But the institution denied to give this label to my mother. So she is not able to go downstairs...

On the other site there are the nurses who come daily to give the injections to my mother because of her diabetes. "Madame" they say daily to me. "Go with your mother to the doctor. He HAS to see her." 🙄
They want me to argue with the health insurance, with the institution and with the doctor where she has to go.

I am doing what I can - beside my three jobs where I am working 7 days a week without break, without a free weekend, without any free day. 😞
And not to forget that I am nursing my mother PERMANENTELY when I am not in one of my three jobs. 😞


I am feeling very left: From the church who is not more than a big economical institution in my country. From this institution who should give my mother the label that she is almost not more able to walk. But they decide to sit comfortable on their desk instead to see her, instead to look at her, how sick she is. And I am feeling left from the health insurance who will reject to order a special ambulance who will carry my mother downstairs without this label.

And I am feeling left from my brother, his wife and his three kids, who don´t give just a SHIT for my mother. He rarely calls her, and it is SELDOM that my mother sees her three grandkids maybe one or twice a year. 😞

I am feeling left. Left from the institutions in my country, left from my brother and his family, left from anybody...

But the responsibility I am having for my mother stays. 😭😭😭
Too much stress can cause you health problems, Loretta. Are there any social agencies that could offer respite care in your home? Volunteers? Sounds like the church is useless, but you may want to call Mrs. pastor and remind her of her promise. Guilt may work. You have nothing to lose. Surely those homecare nurses can make a referral to someone professional? There are invalids who are seen in their homes. Tell your worthless brother and his family to get off their asses and help. I am unsure if your mother has assets, but the loss of them might spur him to action. I only offer my ideas in case you have overlooked something. I wish I could be of more help. Sounds impossible, but make time to visit that special place you found.
@RobinPhoenix Hon, I am happy to offer suggestions. I like to solve problems especially ones like these.
@Loretta78 I hear you, Loretta. You need help and even a little would benefit the situation. You have a lot on your plate. Please follow up and take great care of you. I wish the good you do for others would come back on you.
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@PoetryNEmotion Thanks. Everything will be alright. 🙂
My goodness, you are going through a lot, my dear.

May God bless you with everything you need.

Is there anything I could do to help you?
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@StrugglingSoul Thanks for your offer but there´s absolutely NOTHING you can do.

What I actually need is a person who lives very, VERY closed to me, who talks sometimes to my mother, who maybe even would clean from time to time our flat and who would help my mother from time to time going downstairs. But I guess you live some 1000 miles too far away from my place. 😅

Nevertheless thanks for your offer. 💚
Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M
I’m really sorry you are going through so much. My heart goes out to you.
Loretta78 · 46-50, F
@Fukfacewillie Thanks... 💔

 
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