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Do you ever wonder if you will someday regret all the time you wasted online?

I mean for those of us who spend a seemingly stupid amount of time on useless forums?

Like when you are rotting away in some old people home and thinking, "I should have tried harder to have a real social life instead."

I am not knocking it because I am guilty of it too. I am doing good if even once a year I try to connect with someone real life but even that seldom works out.
rrraksamam · 31-35, M
I don't have options.

I'm alone online. Because I don't want people giving me unnecessary stress.

I'm alone offline too. No friends, nothing.
My experience with people offline is that we're too different, and they're probably going to take advantage of me at some point. So I spare myself the trouble by avoiding people offline too.

Overall, I've had too many bad experiences with people, both online and offline. Now I don't even bother trying to make connections. If by chance someone does connect with me, I'll cherish our friendship. If not, well, I tell myself I can't have everything in life. Everything else is good, so I have to miss love and friendship.

As far as wasting time goes, I've got a limited budget. There isn't much fun to have without the money to spend. Most of the hobbies or leisurely activities either require money, or doing them alone. So again, I'm alone anyway.
Leggs · 46-50, F
@rrraksamam i know the feeling. I guess we all want the ideal version of connections. What typically happens is less than such
MellyMel22 · F
[i][c=BF0080]I think maybe, but at the same time I’m home anyway with kids and wouldn’t be doing much at the times I’m here but watching tv. I still do things home and with the kids often though when I’m here. [/c][/i]
MellyMel22 · F
@Leggs [i][c=BF0080]Isn’t that crazy it comes up restricted 😂

Don’t feel bad. I trip and walk into everything. [/c][/i]
Leggs · 46-50, F
@MellyMel22 Know this - I get frustrated all the time over minor junk. It is the root of my off-the-wall comments. I very seldom get seriously angered though.

However, when I walk into something like a vacuum or my toes find something in the dark, a level of rage comes over me that hell dareth not imagine. 👹
In those moments I come up with vulgar expressions that I am too embarrassed to even repeat before anyone.
MellyMel22 · F
@Leggs [i][c=BF0080]Sorry, I passed out before seeing you replied.

I’m the same that way at those times. Like seriously 😆 [/c][/i]
Viper · M
I seem to end up regretting everything, so it's nothing new...
Leggs · 46-50, F
@Viper I do not regret things if I accomplished something.
Kae20 · 56-60, FVIP
A really good question. One that I think about sometimes . It's not that there's anything wrong with spending lots of time on line. It suits different circumstances.

However I do believe some of that time especially if it's a huge amount would be better spent retaining and cultivating real life relationships .

Last weekend I enjoyed a lovely evening out wine, dinner, cocktails with a dear old friend, & we laughed & laughed.

A few days ago I was on errands and met a lovely lady and I became friendly we were drawn to each other and found we lots in common. So much we exchanged telephone numbers.

These types person - to person interactions are priceless in the sense that memories can be made.

However 90% virtual interaction is not tangible enough to do that .
Yes and no. I hope to make real friendships with my online friends but I also spend time online I could be spending with those already in my life.
Leggs · 46-50, F
@midnightrose For me I do not really have anyone in my real life that isn't 1,000 miles away.

Like when I am out and think, "I should get home" but then think, "Ain't no one there waiting anyways."
Ontheroad · 61-69, M
No, I don't. I made a joke of it earlier today, but I learn so much (about myself and others) from so many people online, things I would never learn otherwise. I do have a social life outside of online, one I enjoy, but strangely enough, I find I can sometimes connect with a person online in ways and deeper than IRL.

I guess it's all about balance, or it is for me.
Ontheroad · 61-69, M
@Leggs That happens when the pain and disappointment is overwhelming... it's hard, really hard to overcome the fear. Then as you get older you begin to think "What's the use", or something similar. Which, I think, is another excuse one uses to put off taking the most fearful risk imaginable, the risk of putting oneself out there again.

It takes trust in oneself and soon/eventually, trust in at least one other person to begin the upward climb. It is worth it. I know, I made the climb up and out.
Leggs · 46-50, F
@Ontheroad I have been making an effort lately probably should try a bit more.
If I spent 10% of the time and effort "out there" that I do on here, it would be amazing.
Ontheroad · 61-69, M
@Leggs Do it! I'm rooting for you! You can, I know you can and when you do, tell me all about it! Well, you don't have to tell me anything, but I'm rooting for you!
SW-User
I already regret it, to some extent. It becomes a problem when it takes away from other things I should be doing (or would feel better about doing). That doesn't happen every time, but it happens enough that I do feel like I've been wasting my life. I know that I am addicted to the internet and sites like these (this is only one of a few I post on).
Leggs · 46-50, F
@SW-User good you recognize it now.
Do not become my age and having that regret.
I hope not. Regrets are such an useless emotion. I'm aware it is stupid time on useless forums, just like I'm aware I should eat healthier, do sports, try to change my mindset about some things etc...I still don't have regrets though. I can't have regrets about something of which hypothetical outcome I don't have a chance to know.
Carissimi · 61-69, F
It’s just passing time. I often don’t like that this seems to be it, but there is nowhere else to be, and no one else to be with. I no longer know what “a real social life” looks like. My idea of a social life is probably very different than the mainstream.
Barny52 · 56-60, M
It’s been my ambition to have lots of memories to look back on when im sat in that old peoples home, I push myself to get out doing stuff and meeting people I just spent quite times on here or internet passing a hour
TheCaterpillar · 41-45, F
I do wonder but I am hoping in the end it will be worth it
Leggs · 46-50, F
@TheCaterpillar I think my problem though is there used to be someone on here who I met and connected with in real life. She hates this forum and left due to a few run-ins but anyways she sometimes tries to encourage me to get out more in real life. She isn't wrong. We do not live close but are in regular contact.
TheCaterpillar · 41-45, F
@Leggs I do think it's good to get out more too. Having a healthy balance is important
Leggs · 46-50, F
@TheCaterpillar I am getting to where I wish something would happen on here to make it less appealing.
I sit here and complain but tomorrow here my fat butt will probably sit hammering away at the laptop AGAIN.
Taters · 41-45, M
just wasted time. so not coming here sometimes. if I spent all day here than yeah I would.
Leggs · 46-50, F
@Taters I am actually ashamed of myself sometimes for how long I am here some days. If I am bored at work that does not count cause I am getting paid basically for surfing SW but on my own time, sad.
Taters · 41-45, M
@Leggs I have been finding other things to occupy myself when its slow here
Leggs · 46-50, F
@Taters I did for about six months when my room mate passed away, trying to escape that reality. Fixing up the house but that slowed down to a crawl.
Elessar · 26-30, M
By then I'll probably me more concerned about finding drinkable water than regretting my life 30+ years before
Gaiia · F
Yes, but depends on the forum. I've regretted some private interactions here mostly.
Noble · 51-55, M
What! This is productive - this morning I’ve learned how to ….oh, I guess you’re right. 😞
I have met so many nice people on here so no lol
Leggs · 46-50, F
@TheStarsareout I cannot argue with that. Good crowd. I even love the people on here that I argue with on a regular basis.
Bang5luts · M
Are you cracked?
Leggs · 46-50, F
@Bang5luts Seems that young lady is concerned about the big geometry test that she must pass to get into Harvard.

For real though why would i be cracked? 😄
Bang5luts · M
@Leggs because I'll never regret any time I spend here with all you lovely people
kentex35 · 100+, M
I'm close enough to the end to worry about that
Djc55 · 56-60, M
Actually...I've learned to regret it ... now.
SW-User
No ,I made a few good connections
SW-User
I don't regret all of it ...just some
Leggs · 46-50, F
@MrBrownstone Your responses are always so long-winded. 😄
iamonfire696 · 36-40, F
I don’t spend a lot of time with people outside on my family because of covid and it can get lonely at times.

I am always present for my kids though.

 
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