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Should I assist my bf with rent? [I Need a Friend to Talk to Openly]

I had a baby and my bf and we moved in together (at his parent's home) when baby was born. He always had a strained relationship with his parents and they kicked him out, SO WE ARE CURRENTLY RENTING AN APARTMENT BECAUSE he dont want to move in an apartment owned by my aunt and myself. I dont like the idea of paying rent when we have a place to go. Now he's asking me to help him pay rent.

Usually I wont mind, but not with him, he's too mean to me.
BlueVeins · 22-25
yeah he's being silly
rottenrobi · 56-60, F
Get you and your baby somewhere safe and drama free.
I don’t know your boyfriend, but it sounds like he needs to grow up.
Do not pay his rent for him.
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@rottenrobi We live together though, I want to move to my apartment with my baby but I afraid he will fight me for custody, which I doubt he would get because of his life style.
rottenrobi · 56-60, F
@destinyfabulous I understand this is a challenging situation. If you pay his rent, I’m afraid he will start to expect this of you.
You know what’s best for you and your family, just protect yourself and your little baby above anyone, even the dad.
If he’s threatening you with custody of the child, for me, that’s a huge red flag.
I wish you all the best!
If he's mean to you he shouldn't be your bf regardless of your child situation and no you should 100% not be assisting him with rent that money should be allocated for your baby.
Ingwe · F
absolutely not
Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F
If he's mean don't stay
Adogslife · 61-69, M
F him. Don’t ever pay. Don’t ever move in. Don’t ever let someone into your life that can hinder your success or the well being of your child.

Some things in life are not negotiable.

Losers are always toxic.
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Adogslife Im loving your straight forwardness
JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
“He’s too mean to me”

Am I confused? Shouldn’t this be everything you need to make a decision?
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@JoeyFoxx very true, however we live together. I am afraid if I move out he may fight me for baby
JoeyFoxx · 51-55, M
@destinyfabulous you updated your story...

With the added context, your question seems odd to me
Stay where you are. Baby needs stability.
SW-User
He needs to grown up, make amends with his parents, change his attitude and be a man who takes care of his woman and child. If he can't do that then he is a loser. You're better off without him if he won't change.
Adamski24 · 41-45, M
If you own the place and your aunt is ok with you both having it together, go for it. Did you also say you and your boyfriend have a difficult relationship?
Keepitsimple · 51-55, F
If he doesn’t want to be a family with you baby then maybe you need to throw him to the curb and worry about you and the baby.
Jessmari · 41-45
Really think you need to choose the best environment for bringing up your baby.
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
Think about the baby and retry
@YMITheWayIM Why retry with someone mean to her ? She should indeed think of the baby and not let it be around an abusive relationship.
YMITheWayIM · 46-50, M
@bijouxbroussard retry/reevaluate
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
Only if you want a strained relationship with him too.
Lackwittyname · 51-55, M
Nope, do not pay his rent
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@Lackwittyname Should it be considered 'our rent' , (we are both living in the rented aprtment. I want to move out with baby. A male perspective will be much appreciated.
No. That makes no sense, especially if he’s mean to you, too.
destinyfabulous · 36-40, F
@bijouxbroussard We live together though
@destinyfabulous [b]Why[/b], if he’s mean to you ?

 
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