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iQuit · F
nothing is official until you realize that neither will budge to make things better whether in a romantic relationship or a fraternal one
It's hard to know what others are actually thinking
It's much easier to assume from the silence.
so in either case something is officially over when one has stop giving a damn and shut the other one out.
Sometimes the strongest thing isn't a word said or things done but time/silence/and distance between people.
It's hard to know what others are actually thinking
It's much easier to assume from the silence.
so in either case something is officially over when one has stop giving a damn and shut the other one out.
Sometimes the strongest thing isn't a word said or things done but time/silence/and distance between people.
pentacorn · F
if you suspect you're not friends anymore, you're probably correct.
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pentacorn · F
@Melpomene you can't expect all people to be as brave as you are, and blunt as you'd be towards them. just back off and see if he ever says hello again. if he never does, then you know for sure... after many moons go by. if he does say hello again, well... maybe he takes care of his friendships differently than you do.
just let him do all the initiations in communications, and live your life happily in the meantime.
just let him do all the initiations in communications, and live your life happily in the meantime.
same way, they stop communicating.
no if they push you away or even start being rude, the friendship is over much the same way a relationship is, their need of you is over.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
@badapple Their "need"? I try to avoid rude people. Omg, what kind of friends did you have?
I push away lot of people when I feel down (in a nice way, I just say I have a fever and need rest), but that doesn't mean I don't want them to be my friends anymore. And I prefer honesty than fake friendship.
I push away lot of people when I feel down (in a nice way, I just say I have a fever and need rest), but that doesn't mean I don't want them to be my friends anymore. And I prefer honesty than fake friendship.
just ones that go distant or turn on you. as you get older most of the friends you had when you are a teen go away, only a few will stay with you. im kind of the same way to be honest. closing myself off at times.
Zer0Point · 31-35, F
I've only 'broke up' with one friend. She was going down a path I could not follow and I told her not to contact me until she gets her life together...haven't heard from her since, lol.
SW-User
You start getting replies to your texts that take much longer to arrive and start with sorry I have just been so busy, and the replies are more superficial and finally you plan to meet up and they never get back to you with a day.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
@SW-User But some people are busy (job, university etc) and some people I never met up with
SW-User
@Melpomene That is true, some people are genuinely sorry for the delay in replying as they have busy lives.
Also I have had friends where we hardly have talked for months because we have been so busy, but then suddenly we are talking again, yet I have an online friend in the US and we have talked every day for nearly 5 years... maybe missed 3 days in that time so I don't know there's an easy way to tell.
Also I have had friends where we hardly have talked for months because we have been so busy, but then suddenly we are talking again, yet I have an online friend in the US and we have talked every day for nearly 5 years... maybe missed 3 days in that time so I don't know there's an easy way to tell.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
@SW-User Exactly
VeronicaPrincess · 61-69
In this new era of instantaneous wireless communication, perhaps there should be an official breakup. "Back in my day", people simply drifted apart, stopped stopping over and/or meeting at the old hangouts.
Melpomene · 22-25, F
@VeronicaPrincess ...it's the same.
VeronicaPrincess · 61-69
@Melpomene Except for the texting, or returning missed calls (we didn't have even have answering machines, let alone caller ID).
Melpomene · 22-25, F
@VeronicaPrincess Times change, people stay same. Unfortunately.
SW-User
i have had one
johnnyq12 · 36-40, M
break ups suck enough why make it to were you have to do that more then necessary.