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An acquaintance of mine is coming to visit from overseas, I had planned to take her for dinner and drinks but she tells me what she wants is to go clubbing. I am way past that. I stopped going to clubs decades ago and I don´t miss them. How do I politely tell her that´s not my cup of tea without sounding rude ?
tmmaier · 51-55, F
Perhaps of no relevance but are you older than she is? Why is open honest communication so difficult...answer...we all fear disappointing another or straight up rejection. I am plagued with this affliction as well. There is no way around it really. Honesty is the best policy and so it has to be said.

Clubbing is not my environment either. Perhaps you can take her out on the town in another fun way that allows her to see you care to have fun with her. Perhaps take her on a scavenger hunt of meaningful places to visit. Leave her clues on cards at each place left in advance and end in a meaningful way for both of you.
tmmaier · 51-55, F
@Underconstruction It sounds like there may be an incompatibility issue if you cannot find real world common ground.
Sometimes things work out better in the virtual realm but when real life steps in the stars just don't align.
@tmmaier She´s an acquaintance, I don´t know her that well but she´s been very kind and I would love to show her my gratitude so I still hope she has a pleasant stay and gets to enjoy her time as much as she wants.
Rocky101 · 51-55, M
@tmmaier good advice
SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M
It's really not that big of a deal, just tell her what you told us.
@SinlessOnslaught Thanks :-)
SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M
@Underconstruction Keep me updated?
@SinlessOnslaught Will do , thanks again for your comments.
Dv8rs · 18-21, F
@Underconstruction You're right, but that's not going both ways. If you have friends that still go, then allow her to go with those friends to enjoy the clubs.
@Dv8rs I am not keeping her, lol, she´s free to go anywhere she wants.
Just tell her of your experience and your dislike for that environment. Maybe she can find someone else to accompany her.
@DreamyCrush She´s been really nice to me and I am looking forward to her visit, however going to these places makes me uncomfortable, I hope she understands , she has other friends in town so hopefully she can go with them and save a more quiet time for me.
Mardrae · F
Honestly, it’s not like she’s moving in with you and wants to go clubbing every night- it’s probably just a one time thing. I would just go. She’s the guest and that’s what she wants to do. You might actually have fun! You can still tell her it’s not your thing, but maybe at her home, she goes out to eat and has drinks often and just wants to do something different since it’s her vacation. Or you can just tell her she can go by herself and tell her where the best clubs are. Maybe you have a friend that can hang out with her.
cherokeepatti · 61-69, F
That’s an awkward situation for you both. Maybe find something else she would enjoy instead.
Just go clubbing with her..
Get out of your comfort zone for a while, it won't hurt to try something different.
I gather that you live in reasonable proximity to the scene.
Just go for it, at least a couple of times.
Maybe her energy will help you have a good time..
bookerdana · M
Hey UC! Plead back issues??Or,obliquely,Oh lets go somewhere we can talk and catch up
@bookerdana Nah, I´d be miserable.
bookerdana · M
@Underconstruction back pain it is😀
@bookerdana Yup...........Plan B ( for Back ) lol
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
Just be honest.
Dv8rs · 18-21, F
It's not about you, take her to a club, that's what she wants to do. Surely you can sacrifice one last night of clubbing, for a friend from overseas.
@Dv8rs It´s not just one night. And yes, it´s about me, too, I want to be in a place where I am comfortable, too. It goes both ways.
Wiseacre · F
I might just make an exception, depending how much u hate clubbing, of course. It's only this one time.
Consider...u might even like it.
ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M
Just be honest -- that's seems to work out best most of the time.
@BiasForAction I really dislike crowds and loud music. I don´t enjoy that kind of environment. If I thought the solution was that easy , I wouldn´t have asked.
@Underconstruction yup You deserve better than me
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@Stereoguy Actually no, she´s planning a two week stay at the end of December, so she says she is on party mode ( no drugs, she doesnt do drugs) but she clearly said she wants to go clubbing and I can´t bear that. Crowds and loud noises make me very uncomfortable.
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@Stereoguy She has other friends she can go with so hopefully she won´t take it the wrong way.

 
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