I promise I’m not generalizing, but why does it seem like half of the men don’t like kids?

A lot of men don't like somebody's else's kids.

It's a tough dynamic, and you could put a lot of time or effort into them to have them yanked away by their mom or father.

I don't know why it "Seems" that way, but appearances in this department would be accurate but I don't really go out of my way to let children know how I feel or act aggressively towards them.

tbh it's just I was one at one point and I got tired of the bullshit adults believed about us like during a lot of the bullying they did lie about me, and I was scapegoated frequently and because of my convenience as being the person to blame shit on they pinned a lot on me simply because often when things did go wrong I was the cause but not -always- and when it was someone else's fault they tried to pin it on me simply because it was usually and given that most people would believe the bullshit they spread.

Kids lie pretty frequently especially if they think it will keep them out of being punished.

But you know i'd hear adults talking like it's a child they'd never lie-children and be and often are vicious. Don't be so fucking naive about them.
I really don't want one of my own, I mean given everything I had to overcome it's like if some miscreant piece of shit bullies my kid I'm going to get myself arrested becuase I will fucking assault them and I don't care that i'm 3 times their size.

They probably do like kids but many aren’t open to accepting a child into a relationship. I experienced this enough as a single mom. On the flip side, we have to make sure that the ones who do accept our child aren’t pedophiles. Pedophiles will date the mom just to gain access to her children. It’s very tricky to navigate your way around this.

My solution was never to bring a guy I dated around my kid until I knew this was the right person to have in my child’s life. I’d rather be lonely and alone for the rest of my life than bring the wrong person home to my child

I think it's probably true that something like half the men out there don't like kids. At least they aren't particularly interested in kids that aren't theirs, biologically speaking.

But that still leaves a LOT of men out there who would be honored to be around you and your son. Now, if you combine that with the strong, smart and emotionallly secure requirements, that leaves only... let's see... a LOT of men out there.

Stay strong, stay YOU, and I believe you will find someone to love you. They are out there. I know.

Its not the kid themselves, it is everything that goes with them and then the added complexities that come with them not being theirs.

I dont mind kids but im not going to lie trying to be anything other than a sex pal with a woman who has a child would add more hassle to my life than I can handle.

Life is hard these days. If these were better times you probably wouldn't be having such an issue with this.

People have to be very conservative with their time and energy because it takes so much just to keep their heads above water and even more to be any kind of comfortable. Especially men, who tend to work the hardest jobs and are expected to be completely self sufficient and in need of no help.

I am one such man who has managed to make a modest level of comfort for myself. The prospect of giving that up or jeopardizing it just to play step daddy is a definite no-go. I work too hard for this.

You are still dating boys

Kids are the best. Unpolluted minds that are pure and happy.

I like hanging out with my kids and my nieces and nephews.

Unfortunately, as one ages, the folks who like and want kids reduces because often already many have them. The pool reduces. Some divorce and are supporting kids.

That leaves fewer folks in the prospective partner pool who want them. That stated, there are still folks who partner late, divorced but never had kids they wanted, want more kids, or younger partners who would love to know a great kid.

Sometimes we unconsciously self- exclude people based on our own inherent biases.

Some men and this is an overgeneralization too are still children. Man childs so they don't like the competition

Because half the men are immature kids themselves.

Interesting post. I'm somewhere in the middle because I'm great with kids and like them, but I don't want any of my own. It's mainly because I have a lot of projects I plan on working on and I like to take things one step at a time. Having a child feels like it'd make my life too difficult for me to work effectively on all my projects and raise them. But I have no problem babysitting children or playing with them time to time.

I like kids! Especially medium rare, served with a nice wine 😅

Selfish or immature or both that think only about themselves, don't have the patience to deal with a child, worse it isn't theirs. Even being theirs they probably wouldn't want to spend much time with them.

I guess the men I hang around with are different. They not only like kids, but we took a lot of kids camping who were not our kids. They even like teenagers.

kids are cool i think the problem is that they get attached to people so the men that don't plan on sticking around don't want to hurt you or your kids feelings.

When that's how you imagine men those are the ones you tend to find

own kids are persons, you love most..

i cant imagine to lose my sons or daughter

I do like kids, dont have one, but maybe some day

When my sister in law was single with her son she denied she had a kid to this guy she liked

She told me so in person

My response was “that’s pretty lame … denying that you have a son just to impress some dick”

Never spoken to her again after that lol we remain civil

Now she’s shacked up with a sugar daddy who she had another son with before that she had a daughter with the father of her first son in between dating other blokes

Unhinged is how I would describe her & it doesn’t matter at what cost she puts on other people

You’re a super cool Mother, if a guy doesn’t want to be around you because you have a son at least you were open & upfront

Someone will care about you both whole heartedly I’m sure 🦋

Am I supposed to like them ?

I had a coworker who had no issue with dating a girl with kids. He called it "instant family". So, everyone is different.

I think there are definitely men out there that will embrace kids that are not their own but I haven’t come across many that would.