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I Am Divorced

Its been almost 7 months now but it feels like it was just yesterday. After 12 years of marriage it was not easy for me to split with the one I thought would stay with me forever. We had such a great marriage going on but it was just not meant to last forever. May be I was a fool to not see through the things. I don't think I will ever again be ready to remarry and loving someone else will be equally hard.

I am hurt and I still weep at nights. I still go through sleepless nights thinking about the promises and the plans we had. It was all sham. How can I trust anyone again to spend the rest of my life with?
It is a grieving process. You are still early in the process. Sounds like it was about trust. I know all about that. I am sorry for your suffering. Listen to me, please. Take the time to heal. Concentrate upon yourself. Be kind to yourself. Develop yourself. Socialize-don't seclude yourself. When you are ready, you will meet someone who will make you believe in love again and in trust. She will come when you least expect it. And it will be scary and wonderful and so many, many things. Trust me.
sharpedge · 41-45, M
@PoetryNEmotion Thank you! Its almost like I have given up. I want to change but fear of going through all that again is what stops me. Thank you for your words though :)
@sharpedge I lived in mistrust for 3 decades. It was unmentionable-it was betrayal and deceit. Do not give up. You mustn't judge everyone by your ex. There are such incredible people in the world. And judging by your words you are a sensitive, caring man. You have been through this mess once and still going through the thoughts. So you can handle anything. Be strong. Be weak too. Your crying shows you care. And I hope my words help because they are true. You may pm me if you wish. I will make time for you.
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i was married 20 years, then divorced. it took me almost 3 years to feel like my old happy self again. you will make it through this time in your life, i promise you. time will heal you, and you will love and be loved again.
sharpedge · 41-45, M
@SW-User I am hoping for that. Thank you
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sharpedge · 41-45, M
@SW-User 😌
Raffie · 61-69, F
I truly empathize with you....I have been where you are now. A forever love is something we all dream about and then life goes in a different direction and we are shattered. Trust will return when we are ready to begin anew, but this time we will guard our heart, leave it on the shelf for awhile and nurture it until our soul connects to whom we were truly meant to be with. Take heart, all is not lost, you are being prepared for the one love that will last forever.
sharpedge · 41-45, M
@Raffie Thank you Raffie :)
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
I am so sorry for your pain and hope that you once again will feel love in your heart.
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@sharpedge you're welcome. There are lots of honest and caring women. Get involved in things that interest you and hopefully you'll eventually find a special one.
Fungirlmmm · 51-55, F
@sharpedge and don't rush it. It takes time.
sharpedge · 41-45, M
@Fungirlmmm I understand. Its not like I have not tried but it just feels scary. The mere thought of going through all that once again makes me feel like its not worth going after. But thank you for your words :)
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All the advice you have been given is sound and true, so I'll simply say best to you and offer (((hugs)))

Stay strong 🙂
Kookey · 56-60, F
I understand completely and after 32 yrs it's broken me. Within months of us separating he was online dating, quickly in a relationship, engaged bought a house with her all within a yr. Served me divorce papers on my birthday and married her 2 weeks after officially divorced
@Kookey You don't need the likes of him in your life. You are free now and can be happier. He never loved you if that was what he did. Can one legally marry after divorcing that quickly where you are? Just think she has him now. Poor thing. She will regret it soon enough.
Kookey · 56-60, F
Yes in Nz some you have been apart for 2 yrs you can divorce. I agreed to a trial separation and he shutdown our marriage in 6 months. After that he did everything else n married her two weeks after legally divorced. I don't understand why he did it in such a contrived way. But then he never l I ked to talk about anything
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What was the cause for your divorce?
sharpedge · 41-45, M

 
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