I Am Getting a Divorce

So she came over to try to make peace (had to do with asking for things....)

I'm not gonna hurt her, it looked like she was barley able to ask me for that. She's a soft spoken person, and I'm a straight shooter. Its almost like "she's left" and "i'm right" politically. She's balling her eyes out, I'm blank, have been blank for a while now.

She's still crying, i calmly re-organize the screaming, and crying to an statement or question she's looking for, and during all this I only wonder so god damn much what the hell I'm doing and I wonder if other relationships communications are like this.

I feel like i'm saying nothing new to anybody, and that kinda the poetic justice for me. Nothing to learn, just pain to forget and wash away. Time for my next move.

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FreeOrchid · 36-40, F

That blank stage...I was there. It sucks when one sees the end but the other doesn’t yet. He was extremely emotional (confrontational at times) and I had checked out.

If there is not a reasonable solution, it’s not ready to discuss the issue yet.

earlycrisis · 41-45, M

@FreeOrchid its devastating to see, as that was your love. Its painful to reconcile. But to your point, it explains a lot about communication...its very very important.

Mamapolo2016 · F

It says a lot about you that you are not going to hurt her. Maybe the majority of people don’t behave that way - they figure, “I’m in pain, I’ll make sure they are too.”

It will pass, in time. 🤗

earlycrisis · 41-45, M

@Mamapolo2016 I try to say whatever I can that doesn't cause pain, but I've learned that if whatever feelings you have are strong enough, even good or regular statements, can become weapons or cause explosions.

Thank you!

Mamapolo2016 · F

Too true. @earlycrisis

Pinkstarburst

This hurts my heart. I hope you can move forward and find your joy very soon.

earlycrisis · 41-45, M

@Pinkstarburst thank you :-)

Butterflykisses24 · 51-55, F

Sorry man

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

She probably wants you to magically "guess" what's on her mind. 🙄 been there.

Whatever the case, best you can do is leave the floor open. In my experience, when the rot has really set in, anything becomes a war.

Best of luck.

earlycrisis · 41-45, M

@uncalled4 she was upset about something that I didn't catch onto, because at the time she communicated and showed emotions that she was fine with it. Later I found out through my error in not understanding her that this was a grave mistake on me.

Thank you btw!

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