Daughter in law

first of all, I am sorry that no one replied to your two posts. now, I often read your posts and you often seem to be expressing how unhappy you are with your present living situation. I don't know you so I can't know if you are actually unhappy or if you just like drama but since you always post this kind of thing it sounds like you are unhappy. if this is the case then the solution might be right there in your post, you say " If you ever tell, what about me then they will tell, if you don't feel happy here then you can leave", then why don't you just leave ? create a life for yourself where you will be happy.

I think this is a period of adjustment. This is how you should view things. If you are a daughter, you received the love and comfort of being with your parents..a time where you are being taken cared of.. part of that is they will prepare you for your future life, teach you lessons and manners.

Here comes married life, according to common Asian tradition, you are expected to serve or follow your in-laws, your husband..if it makes your husband happy, makes your marriage happy, why not? If you are suffering from such treatment, be patient. Try to earn the respect from his family but also convince him to have a house of your own so both of you can have privacy. Having your own house, no eagle eyes, no nagging elders…you may still extend your respect to your inlaws without being suffocated. Remember it doesn’t mean they don’t favor you, but you will need their support to strengthen your relationship with your husband.