I was raised in a loveless family

This meant I never developed familial feelings.
As a result, I had trouble developing trust and empathy.
Closeness and intimacy were not possible. I stayed remote from everyone and as a result most of my life I have been alone.
That does not mean I am lonely, aloneness is my life and I have learnt to live with it.
I am fascinated by the reactions of people when family members and friends die.
Because emotional attachment is not a part of my makeup, the death of people means nothing to me.
I simply say, "I knew them, they are no more."
Has this stunted my development? Some would say yes, I say, "I have come to love the person I have become and I do not need people in my life."

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DeWayfarer · 61-69, M

I fully understand this loveless family concept because, in many ways, I was raised this way. Emotional attachment was discouraged. Especially any type of hugging by any.

Sort of overcame it though after I went into the military and started to live fully on my own. Lot's and lots of roommates. More than I care to say.

Just to have that many roommates you simply have to care about them. Two separate roommates I even lived with twice.

Each one, with the exception of one, I still care about. Though I never have heard back from any one.

That one exception is actually a criminal for real, without any kind of doubt by anyone. Even biker gangs consider that person a criminal.