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I've never found it rude, exactly, just annoying. First of all, it's just goofy. If you walked around smiling while choosing on something in a grocery store, [i]someone [/i] just might ask "what are you smiling about?".
Also, maybe something tragic has recently happened in a person's life...and they just don't [i]feel[/i] like smiling at ALL.
Also, maybe something tragic has recently happened in a person's life...and they just don't [i]feel[/i] like smiling at ALL.
TheDarknessHasFallen · 41-45, M
[c=#BF0080] I thin he was trying to be encouraging, however, people DO ahve aright to facial express anyway they wanbt to/ Also, just because you dont smile, you could be smiling inwardly! ☺️🌷 [/c]
Fernie · F
@TheDarknessHasFallen Nope! Only males say that crap to women...there is SO much more to it...but, since you are male...you will never see it
RedRhapsody · 31-35, F
IWasCallingYaLarry · 26-30, M
Because some people always just look miserable and like they have no emotions. I get told to smile sometimes, too. By both guys and girls. A girl I used to be friends with and worked with had told me I should smile more.
ChilledStone · 26-30, F
Fernie · F
@ChilledStone who said anything about being upset? I can see you are one of those little girls who takes her freedom for granted...not a feminist bone in your body...only males do that to women...it's a control thing
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@SW-User Or a nice joke even...
SW-User
@Stilltryinghard You'd be exempt because of the laundry powder 😄
4meAndyou · F
Because if you smiled, they would want to do you...but since you are not smiling, they don't. 🧐
They are so full of themselves they figure you will value that constructive criticism from a complete stranger...even though they, themselves, appear to be warthogs. 😂
They are so full of themselves they figure you will value that constructive criticism from a complete stranger...even though they, themselves, appear to be warthogs. 😂
4meAndyou · F
@Stilltryinghard They do it all the time...everywhere.
I've met this type frequently...in my singles club. Most of them can't get a girlfriend.
Secure in their self-delusions, they are convinced they are God's gift to women, and they assume automatically that they are entitled to critique your qualities. ANY of them.
Oh...also, you should never even speak to a man who is deluded in this way, because even if you are asking him to pass a box of crakcers, he will assume you are hitting on him.
I've met this type frequently...in my singles club. Most of them can't get a girlfriend.
Secure in their self-delusions, they are convinced they are God's gift to women, and they assume automatically that they are entitled to critique your qualities. ANY of them.
Oh...also, you should never even speak to a man who is deluded in this way, because even if you are asking him to pass a box of crakcers, he will assume you are hitting on him.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Eh i've had people say that to me and they're just being positive. Maybe you'll make em smile.
@Ryannnnnn Most women wouldn't ogle a strange guy in the street that way.
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
@Stilltryinghard I don't know if i'd compare basic interaction to ogling.
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
Oh yea, I would have had a nice response to that for sure.
According to a lot of people I should smile more...like all the time. I must look better when I am smiling...
does anyone realize that this is actually what they mean?
"You should smile" = "Your face is prettier when you smile"
According to a lot of people I should smile more...like all the time. I must look better when I am smiling...
does anyone realize that this is actually what they mean?
"You should smile" = "Your face is prettier when you smile"
bijouxbroussard · F
@JaggedLittlePill Yes, because no matter what [b]else[/b] may be going on in your life, being pretty is what’s most important. 😏
JaggedLittlePill · 46-50, F
@bijouxbroussard Yes, of course it is!
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
bijouxbroussard · F
That’s part of it, the fact that they feel the need to tell a total stranger to smile with [b]no[/b] idea if you have any [b]reason[/b] to be smiling. The other part is that no one [b]ever[/b] tells [b]men[/b] to smile. If he’s looking serious, people assume he has a reason, and doesn’t just exist as “eye candy”. So yes, I consider it rude coming from a stranger.
@bijouxbroussard There's no children's version of sir, that's what I meant.
like there is for maam (miss)
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so the idea that designation can be different according to sex, rubs me the wrong way
analogy: men are not asked to smile in the street for women
like there is for maam (miss)
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so the idea that designation can be different according to sex, rubs me the wrong way
analogy: men are not asked to smile in the street for women
bijouxbroussard · F
@Stilltryinghard Right, that was what I said.
Starsandfire · 31-35, F
Yes, I get it at work sometimes. There's nothing to smile about there 🤷🤣
Harmonium1923 · 51-55, M
It’s rude. I’d get @Pinkstarburst to throat punch him and then see who’s smiling.
@Harmonium1923 😂😂😂
Yes I tell them to fuck off. How dare you, you have no idea what someone is going through. Ignorant invalidation from a stranger.
The last time someone said that to me it was the Xmas season and my father had not long ended his life and I was walking down the street hurting like fuck and some asshole lent out his car window just to patronizingly tell me to smile. I felt like breaking his damn jaw
The last time someone said that to me it was the Xmas season and my father had not long ended his life and I was walking down the street hurting like fuck and some asshole lent out his car window just to patronizingly tell me to smile. I felt like breaking his damn jaw
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@Stilltryinghard It's not "accosting" though. Sure, there are plenty of dumb social rules, and some guys want to have power over women, but sometimes they just want to cheer someone up and don't know what else to say. Maybe they lack awareness/social skills, and it's annoying, but it's not always a passive-aggressive attack.
@lovelywarpedlemon a simple smile from him would work better wouldn't it?
@Stilltryinghard oh i just now read your paragraph, guess i missed the context of this situation