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If you hold grudges and are unforgiving

Then I must know so i can put u in my block list.

I like being around people who have a good heart and their self serving ego doesn't get in between the relationship. That if there is a problem, we face it together and not escape by walking out.

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Because people are going deep please note i am not referring to toxic manipulative relationships. I am talking about a very basic level harmless first misunderstanding.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
🤔 I don’t know about grudges, but I believe there’s value in having boundaries and sometimes the healthy thing is to move on rather than forcing it. You can forgive someone, meaning heal within and let go the negative feelings, and still not want them in your life anymore.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I believe in clearing up misunderstandings, but I’ve also known a few people over the years where there were misunderstandings too frequently. Really what it came down to is we had incompatible communication styles and values, so the friendship never quite flowed. Too much tension too often. Like.. we wanted to get along, but it was oil and water @SW-User
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Ducky · 31-35, F
Sorry, but there’s just some behavior I can never abide. Trusted friends who treated me like trash, those who put up a kind front when they’re actually manipulative bullies... Those are toxic individuals who I take every measure to avoid. Call it what you want. I call it protecting myself from those who actively go out of their way to be harmful to others.
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Ducky · 31-35, F
@SW-User Well, one can apply the language to toxic behavior and betrayal. But I think I see what you mean now.
smiler2012 · 56-60
{@lushi] i do hold one or two grudges one against the doctor in charge of my dads care before he died.my other is against those who bullied me mercilessly at school and my my early days at work , these where all mainly the same ones
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smiler2012 · 56-60
@SW-User you are right good advice
ABCDEF7 · M
Not everybody knows how to do that.

Many times, maybe they wanted to, but they can't. It's not as easy for everyone as it may sound.

[i]"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."[/i] - Buddha
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ABCDEF7 · M
@SW-User You know, having a trait of ego in personality is common these days.
Torsten · 36-40, M
i do hold grudges for sure but there has also been times where I forgave. It really depends what that person did, for me to hold a grudge in the first place and I never hold grudges for mediocre stuff
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Tres13 · 51-55, M
God May Forgive You But I Wont
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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I can forgive and I can also apologize too.
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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
@SW-User it’s a good trait when you can forgive and apologize I think
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