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How would you tell a person you met online you have an STD? [I Have a Std]

I met a person online and he wants to exchange numbers, I am hesitant to give him my number because I know once I talk to him offline I need to tell him I have herpes. I dont want to waste his time or mine. I dont want to tell him on the app either but rather over phone or in person before we go any further. I guess I am thinking theres a slight chance if I give him my number he will be okay with it, but i dont know. I mean I have never had an outbreak down there or even any type of herpes pimple because of my antibodies but anyways moral of story what I can I do in this sitatuion and PLEASE dont tell me I have to tell him because I dont but I WANT too because the person who gave me it didnt tell me and anyways I believe one should always be honest.
JaneCas · 26-30, F
I just let him know, my gut told me to let him know in app, a little afraid of his response but I feel its better to tell him before giving him my number if he wants to move forward or if even still does.
EuphoricTurtle · 36-40, M
[@833620,JaneCas] you did the right thing. Hope it all turns out ok.
JaneCas · 26-30, F
[@17323,EuphoricTurtle] SO I just got a response from him, he actually was very nice about it. He shared that he respected me and appreciated me for sharing this information and was going research about it and if that was okay he would get back to me. If finds out he doesnt want to continue after his research than I am okay with that too, i just feel good that I told him already before moving any further.
EuphoricTurtle · 36-40, M
[@833620,JaneCas] good luck 😉
Jessmari · 41-45
There is no way to really mitigate his reaction. That's on him. Being honest is on you. Might be best to tell him before meeting for real.
JaneCas · 26-30, F
[@14041,Jessmari] Yea I just did, I put myself in his shoes and would want the same thing.
EuphoricTurtle · 36-40, M
I think the sooner you tell him the better. You don't have to make a big deal of it, just let him know.
BigBen · 61-69, M
A huge percentage of people have herpes. Look it up. It's almost the norm. I understand your concern. If you don't want to tell him, that's your business. But, if he were me, I'd want you to say something.
Havesomefun · 56-60, M
You’re choice

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