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In most cases I don't have a clue why anyone is interested in me.
I make sure ppl are attracted to my personality first. I'm weird about selfies, but i know I'm not ugly. And I'm not the best looking either, but I'm not really concerned with my looks, it's my personality I'm insecure about. I wanna make sure you like that first.
lilacs · 41-45, F
think it's my jeans they like. usually the look says they want to get in my pants
Fairydust · F
Both I think. 😌
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
Cold blind fear, doesn't work that way! 🤷‍♀️
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Harriet03 It worked on me. *goes to get the wine* 🍷😁
Harriet03 · 41-45, F
@Degbeme [image]
Degbeme · 70-79, M
@Harriet03 🤗❤️🍷
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
I've no idea why anybody would be attracted to me tbh. It certainly not looks because I'm fat, ugly and old. I've got about as much personality as a fire damaged brick.
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
@HootyTheNightOwl funnily enough I saw a career advisor and all he wanted was to get me working without thinking about what I could do. I saw one though that wasn't at a job centre and their program was top class.

Yeah I know what you mean.

Yeah that's shit it was abolished.

Oh wow yeah it should be kept professional. It's probably a good thing he left but you could do with seeing another one tbh.

Seems like he was crossing the professional line. Doesn't sound like he hid the flirting. Were you interested?

I can understand you're perspective. Once it's on your records it's on your records. Social services are a nightmare too.
@VirginMatchmaker That's been my biggest problem. I'm like:-

"I want to work, but I need you to help me to find something I can do".

Their response:-

"You can do anything you want, just pick something". Yeah, that's not how life works.

No, I wasn't interested in him as anything other than someone to flirt with. I was owned at the time (my former Sire knew about it and encouraged me to continue with it because it was helping with my confidence). I wouldn't have left my former Sire for him. That's not me... I am a one man girl - once I bond with a guy, it's difficult for me to dethatch from him.

The same is true with my man now. I may talk with other guys and laugh and joke with them... but I'm unable to see them as more than friends - even if I thought that there could be the potential for more than friendship. I still belong to my man at the end of the day, and it's always him that I will return to.

I gave up with that after I was abandoned because it's not something that's a good fit for my man and I now.

Even if I were interested in him, he was a practicing Muslim - and I knew that would have caused issues in my racist family (they can't handle the fact that I am Catholic and I had to lapse) and that I knew he'd have had to use the darker side of his degree to get out of. It wasn't fair to even contemplate anything more than a bit of fun between two people. It had to end there... but I was getting hooked on the heady feeling of a flirting session. I'm guessing that he did it because he knew that he was changing anyway and decided to have a bit of fun before he left.

He's not the only one I've been involved with with a psych degree, so I know well about the darker side of the degree and learned a few tricks from. Now, I prefer to have no involvement with people who hold psychology degrees, given how much a dom hiding a psych minor degree screwed me up.
VirginMatchmaker · 46-50, M
@HootyTheNightOwl For them to turn around and just say pick something is utterly ridiculous. Surely they can see your problems and have to take them into account.

Being a one man girl is the best way to be. It's interesting he was flirty with you, but at least he's not there to screw you up.

Religion gets in the way of alot of things. I wish there wasn't any religion as then there'd be fewer wars in this world.
skmokisses · 46-50, F
I think its looks first, but then they are swept away by the sarcastic sassiness that is ME 😋
skmokisses · 46-50, F
@SW-User Aww....shucks 🥰 thank you!
skmokisses · 46-50, F
@Degbeme OoooH...hey there friend 😍
SW-User
Welcome 🤗 @skmokisses
SW-User
Initially only were looks. Then, some personality
BalmyNites · F
Both I think 😊
SW-User
I think a lot are attracted the size of my….wallet 🤭. 🤪
marsbar · F
@SW-User Lol
SW-User
Oh I always check out the size of there 👜. 😏
marsbar · F
@SW-User You must be looking for a sugar mama then. 🤔
SW-User
😏. Maybe .
How big is your purse 👜?@marsbar
Credit score. ;-) (Jo Koy bit)
marsbar · F
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
Usually its entry into the batcave….
marsbar · F
@Shutterbug Your love cave 😏
Shutterbug · 56-60, M
@marsbar lets try to keep this clean 🙄
marsbar · F
@Shutterbug You’re so boring Batman. 😤🙄
tallpowerhouseblonde · 31-35, F
Both.My long legs and big breasts attract men like magnets and combined with my personality seals the deal.
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
Personality.. I'm not handsome or anything.
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
I think they are drunk
marsbar · F
GunFinger · F
Must be the personality.
LadyJ · F
Looks first... then my exquisite personality 🤪🤣
LadyJ · F
@Lilymoon 🤣🤣 innit! 🥂🥂
Lilymoon · F
@NightsWatch 😁 🤗
LadyJ · F
@NightsWatch 🤗😊
Lilymoon · F
I think it's looks at first ... but then I secretly hope it's my personality that attracts them. 🤪
SW-User
I think my personality and look at the same time, if that makes sense.
SW-User
I think people are attracted to whatever they think they can get out of me. Historically, I've attracted a lot of scammers, hackers and criminal types.
@SW-User
Yes, I attract heaps of Nigerian guys who love me and want me to send them money so they can be with me and the odd Russian women
I think they are batshit crazy.
marsbar · F
TexChik · F
Initially all attraction starts with looks usually. Personality is a close second but if the looks fail the personality seems to be less important. BUT... If you have boobs, they seem to mask any appearance flaws...just ask my hubby 😉
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Degbeme · 70-79, M
@nightjourney hede? 🤔
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has to be personality
JesseInTX · 51-55, M
@saragoodtimes ❤️😘❤️
caesar7 · 61-69, M
@saragoodtimes I agree with JesseeinTX
@caesar7 ❤️🤗
JoyfulSilence · 46-50, M
No woman has ever been interested in me.

You have a nice, fun personality, [i]and[/i] you look good.
marsbar · F
@JoyfulSilence Thank you 🤗
GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M
Definitely not my looks so it must be my charming personality
SoLeRiMix · 31-35, M
I think we should be attracted to inner beauty than physical beauty.😇

Nothing against those who value physical beauty more.🙂

I simply believe inner beauty lasts forever.😇
SW-User
I’m not sure, it doesn’t happen too often
SW-User
@nightjourney I don’t work with many people anymore. I’ve gotten together with a few coworkers before but only after we got to know each other so I guess it was personality
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SW-User
@nightjourney you flatter me 😊
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JimboSaturn · 51-55, M
hmmmm I can't remember that feeling :P
marsbar · F
@JimboSaturn Aww. Lol
DragonFruit · 61-69, M
Looks tend to be more of an initial attraction thing, what makes someone actually decide to approach you. After that, it's more about personality and less about looks.
Nanori · F
Def my pussy
@Nanori Does it have a great personality?
Nanori · F
@Mindfulness no but it has a pair of beautiful legs attached to it
@Nanori 👀 I bet you have.
SW-User
I assume both as well. I don't think my looks are that great. It might draw someone in or cause them to look at me more closely, but it's not going to be enough for them really be attracted to me. People get more interested in me when they get to know me. :)
marsbar · F
@SW-User Hence the importance of getting to know someone.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
Hopefully, both!
empanadas · 31-35, M
My 34inch gut
Viper · M
They're more attracted to my brain because my looks and personally suck!
marsbar · F
@Viper Don’t say that!
RoxClymer · 41-45, M
depends on how much of you they know berfore-hand
marsbar · F
@RoxClymer True
Ingwe · F
not looks for sure, but personality
marsbar · F
@Ingwe I think personality is more important.

 
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