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“Pretty for a dark-skinned person”?

Someone just commented on my wife’s Instagram where she just posted a picture of her face and one of the comments she got was from some guy who told her she was very pretty for someone with dark skin. Wow… I’ll bet you that person is completely oblivious to how backhanded that compliment was. It doesn’t matter if the compliment wasn’t intended as such, it implies people with dark skin can’t be attractive and that- well, I don’t even need to say it.

What’s sad is that’s still a fairly common saying these days. My sister had dark skin and even she’s gotten stupid compliments like that. Again, I’m sure these people aren’t even aware of how racist they’re being, but it doesn’t make them any less of a racist for the idea they clearly have in their head that dark-skinned people aren’t attractive! Subconscious racism is what I call it and it’s very much alive today. All racists are ignorant dullards, but if there’s anything worse than a racist, it’s one that’s so stupid, they’re oblivious to their own bigotry.
I remember black kids in school who would tease each other and say the most god awful things to each other about their differing shades of skin. It was beyond cringe
Ducky · 31-35, F
@stratosranger Then that is really fucked. I can only hope those were bullied went on to live healthy, full lives and those who bullied them got the comeuppance they deserve
Decades later I still remember his name too. Jimmy Keys. I hope he’s either dead or in jail.@Ducky
It would be harmless if they grew out of it, but the thing is, many subconsciously harbor those beliefs well into adulthood. Those beliefs were ingrained. Colorism will never end, just as racism won’t.@Ducky
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When people say things like that it leaves me completely speechless. Sorry you and her have to deal with insanity like that.
Ducky · 31-35, F
@SW-User It doesn’t leave me speechless because it doesn’t surprise me how common this subconscious level of racism is. Hell, I’ve seen white liberals and leftists who claim to be against racism and support movements like BLM casually make racist statements against people of color. “Well, they [minorities] don’t really have the right education…” It’s sickening. So openly racist yet so oblivious.
Ducky · 31-35, F
At least that idiot who left that comment got reprimanded hard by other people who commented. I doubt that’ll do anything to change his ideas, but at least he didn’t get away with it. That gives me some hope.
That's disgusting my God
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