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caccoon · 36-40
It's good to care about yourself first.

I've found as I get older, I'm learning more about what love is, what is fair, how to draw boundaries etc.

I don't love as freely and easily, but when I do start to feel it, it's just as intense, or even moreso than the first
@caccoon that's a good way to look at it. I wish it came that naturally to me lol. I feel like I keep myself at a distance on purpose or something & I don't let myself have real feelings anymore.

It's a wild game out here
caccoon · 36-40
@ChiefWalksWith40oz I understand, I'm kind of the same. It's hard for me to open up to people now, I'm pretty dismissive of love, or maybe scared of it.

Just do what's best for you for now 😊 it's a long life and we grow and change at our own pace
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LostOrchid · F
Hell no 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Loving is being vulnerable.
@Spoiledbrat maybe that's why it gets harder to do
I know I can because I have. I have easily dampened emotions.
@MorbidCynic it just takes the right person maybe? It's a good thing to not fall too easily imo 👌
Azlotto · M
Yes. And did.
@Azlotto did? or still do?
Azlotto · M
@ChiefWalksWith40oz Did. She hurt me in so many ways.
SW-User
To love again....differently but still deeply.
When you limit love, you limit the possibilities.
@SW-User I like that 🤔 I'ma keep it in that memory storage place
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@ChiefWalksWith40oz Good. I hope you remember it when love seems hard to take and give.
I totally understand this.
Randie · 61-69, T
I didn't think so and was devastated. Eventually I met my wife and married her after two years. That was 38 years ago and we are still going.

What people do not realize is that every relationship no mater if it's friends, business or lovers is a series of compromises. I you dont both compromise at times it will never work.

I am with the love of my life but we have had some trying times but have always worked it .
@Randie yeah I tend to say I don't really believe in soul mates & shit like that anymore, it's just about whoever you make shit work with. Some people can work easier together than others it just depends. Not everyone likes when I say that though 😂
I'm glad you found someone though
Elessar · 26-30, M
It's difficult to answer this. I may be cynical, but I I would be able to love just as deeply. The problem is practical, when you're in your fifth year in a row without even just dating.
xzLucaszx · M
I’ve never been in love don’t plan to be
@xzLucaszx yeah you can't really plan something like that. It just happens & it's some crazy shit lemme tell ya
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@SW-User I feel that 😅
th3r0n · 41-45, M
I wouldn’t have guessed it, but the young woman I’ve been friends with for five years and am now trying to marry means more to me than a woman ever did, I love her in a way I never loved anyone
@th3r0n that's dope though I'm glad it all worked out 👌 it's when you don't even expect it sometimes I guess
th3r0n · 41-45, M
@ChiefWalksWith40oz only God knows, I’ll say it worked out when we are married, I surely know I don’t want anyone else
exexec · 61-69, C
Since I married my first real love, I haven't had to deal with another one. I can see how that might be a problem.
@exexec do you wanna deal with another one or nah?
exexec · 61-69, C
@ChiefWalksWith40oz I'll stick with the one I have.
@exexec oh I misread your original comment lol
SW-User
Yeah...rip Anton

(we're still kind of friends)
@SW-User rip Anton 🙏 he will be missed.. well.. maybe 🤷 idk
Rhode57 · 56-60, M
No never as I never want to be hurt like that again .
empanadas · 31-35, M
Naw bruh, sucks because you want to give your love everything but then you realize they can leave at anytime for whatever stupid reason. I'm not even getting married with these divorce laws.
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@InHeaven I hear about people who have never loved anyone as much as that first time, but there's also people who find love even better. I just wonder which one I'll turn out to be. So far I haven't seen that type of love in anybody else. I'm not sure how much of that is because of me pushing it away but I'm told I have a bad habit of doing that
InHeaven · F
@ChiefWalksWith40oz I don’t understand what it is like to never have loved anyone.... Poor things 🤔🤔🤔
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
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@nightjourney I don't trust long distance relationships because I'd never know what they were doing & honestly I just can't be with somebody I can't see personally. Sounds like that dude wasn't even making the time for you though. You deserve better than that
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SW-User
No I hope not because it always seem to end with pain, disappointment or both for me 😕. My guard has always been up and as soon as I put it down just a little, my heart got broke and I was disappointed at how it all turned out. So I definitely see your point and I agree with you, hopefully I can find someone who doesn’t make me regret loving them 😌
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@ChiefWalksWith40oz I feel the same way, it can be scary because you never know anyones true intentions. I always think everyone is gonna leave me, and I haven’t been wrong yet. But sometimes I think what if my mindset, actually manifests that happening? So I’m not sure if I should think more positive and be more open to people or always keep my guard up and let no one in. Because at the end of the day when a relationship fails, I feel so stupid and I get angry that I let my guard down, even a little just to get hurt. But if I don’t open up at all and push everyone away, I might miss my real chance at that love that I want. Again though, I’m not sure who to trust anymore 😐🤷🏽‍♀️
@SW-User Yeah I know what you mean. I push everybody away but I don't mean to. I still want the affection though so I date, I open up, but I keep walls up & I'll walk away if it goes too far. I think most of us kinda develop our own ways of keeping certain distances to avoid catching feelings & shit.
You're right though our own walls block ourselves too 🤷
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@ChiefWalksWith40oz I do the same, and yeah I usually always keep most of myself completely private and guarded. Because it seems like people use you opening up to them to hurt you 🤷🏽‍♀️,
When I finally, truly loved, I realized my first wasn’t love at all.
InHeaven · F
Same@Pinkstarburst I really truly loved my “third” love. Then I realized that first and second were not or some kind of a lesser love or what the heck. Third is stronger than first and second combined 🤔🤔🤔😄🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️
@Pinkstarburst I've realized that before too.. kinda makes me wonder if that just happens over & over
FrozenWasteland · 61-69, M
I have been fortunate enough to truly love three women in my life. I've loved the first one for give or take 50 years. I never claimed that "she could do no wrong": i loved her then for who she was then and i love her now for who she has become. I don't love the other two any less deeply than i loved my first love.

I'm not sure love comes in "depths". At least it doesn't seem to for me.

 
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