I think being too attractive can be trouble.
A woman would have problems with men all over her. A man would have problems with women fighting over him. The list goes on and on. As long as a person doesn’t look hideous than thats fine.
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Grateful4you · M
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@Grateful4you Yeah. Such men dominate women and demand them to cover up, be it their fathers, brothers, husbands etc. In their thinking that's how they protect them from male strangers.
Some women however choose to wear it to divert the unwanted attention or to "obey God" according to their own beliefs.
Some women however choose to wear it to divert the unwanted attention or to "obey God" according to their own beliefs.
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@Grateful4you In some Muslim countries if the lady is really beautiful she can decide to wear a burka so men wouldn’t gaze at her.
Grateful4you · M
In my 20's I really soaked up the attention and compliments, I was totally shallow with no real sense of integrity or values. It took me hours to get ready for a night out. Little wonder we elders now ask, "Why is youth wasted on the young?" I was a snob and turned up my nose. And for what?
Ironically, inside I felt inferior and hungered for real love.
Ironically, inside I felt inferior and hungered for real love.
Grateful4you · M
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They should but most of the teenagers are too self centered, troubled, depressed to even care . @Grateful4you
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assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
I'm conventionally attractive and I've had men avoid me because society (where I live) taints the image of men who are friends with "attractive" women. Or so I perceive. It always confused me as to why I had no admirers because I've been told so many times how beautiful/pretty I am. It just... Doesn't make sense. I've never ever ever been approached by a man to ask me out on a date. And I've tried to express my feelings to a certain acquaintance (who was and is also single) and only got rejected. Pretty privilege is such a myth. But yes charisma privilege is real. I'm not charismatic. I fall more into the "cute and innocent" category. Which doesn't really turn men on. I have less conventionally "attractive" women around me who are able to utilize their seductive charisma to get favors from men at work. But the same favors are not given to me because I don't know how to be seductive. I try to watch and learn but I just realized many women just naturally and unintentionally have charisma. So yeah it's not about being conventionally pretty it's really about how se.xy you are.
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@assemblingaknob I agree, it’s all about personality. You have to learn how to manipulate people in giving you what you want. Men are attracted to manipulative women and looks aren’t even that important. They rather have a regular looking lady that knows how to deceive them than an innocent pretty one. I’m sorry that happened to you but you will find someone. Be happy you’re beautiful. Many women envy you.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
@SW-User Yes yes yes!!! Men like manipulative women who will keep them on their toes. Being manipulative is cool but IDK how to be and it sucks I swear.
Casheyane · F
Honestly in a way beauty is power. But yeah there can be downsides. Depends on where you're focusing.
Personally I like being beautiful. It brings confidence but yeah it shouldn't define one's value. But thing is...it kinda does play a big role in how society views you. Society uses all sorts of reasons just to judge. It's off but it is what is happening out there.
Doesnt help that social media and mass media in general like to limit and categorize the definition of beauty. That's why people always want to look like someone else. It's a lesson learned the hard way when someone learns to love themselves and impove who they already are, see their own value and fight for their dreams without needing to step on another.
One would think it's something that should be taught in homes. But yeah, maybe there should be a lesson in schools about self worth and beauty.
Personally I like being beautiful. It brings confidence but yeah it shouldn't define one's value. But thing is...it kinda does play a big role in how society views you. Society uses all sorts of reasons just to judge. It's off but it is what is happening out there.
Doesnt help that social media and mass media in general like to limit and categorize the definition of beauty. That's why people always want to look like someone else. It's a lesson learned the hard way when someone learns to love themselves and impove who they already are, see their own value and fight for their dreams without needing to step on another.
One would think it's something that should be taught in homes. But yeah, maybe there should be a lesson in schools about self worth and beauty.
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I like being beautiful too but I’m not. I was always wanting to look like others. I wanted to look like singers, blondes and movie stars but that didn’t happen. I feel like women that are too beautiful are targeted by crazy men that won’t take no for an answer. I think brains are better to have than looks. It would be great to be beautiful with brains but I’m neither. I’m just a normal woman. @Casheyane
Casheyane · F
@SW-User No one who was great started out as great. I think people once thought of them as normal too until they decided to stand out.
But you know what? Each to one's own. Be the best you. Constantly improve you. You're your own competitor.
I have high standards for myself when it comes to beauty. That is part of being me and I love it. I love makeup and dressup and all other stuff I like. I like being good, an expert in my field and reading stories. But I also admire other girls and wonder how it feels to be in their shoes.
But maybe instead of letting those others make us feel down, we could just see them as inspiration. We're all women. Nothing is normal in who we are. We have the best gifts. We've got what we need. We only need to take courage and step up, be resourceful enough to utilize what are available to be the most of who we want to be. And constantly improve at that.
You're a woman. That's an asset dear.
But you know what? Each to one's own. Be the best you. Constantly improve you. You're your own competitor.
I have high standards for myself when it comes to beauty. That is part of being me and I love it. I love makeup and dressup and all other stuff I like. I like being good, an expert in my field and reading stories. But I also admire other girls and wonder how it feels to be in their shoes.
But maybe instead of letting those others make us feel down, we could just see them as inspiration. We're all women. Nothing is normal in who we are. We have the best gifts. We've got what we need. We only need to take courage and step up, be resourceful enough to utilize what are available to be the most of who we want to be. And constantly improve at that.
You're a woman. That's an asset dear.
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@Casheyane I agree with you but when you reach your 40s beauty fades and it’s harder to maintain your looks. I try the best I can though.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I think one of the biggest problems that probably comes up for people who are ridiculously attractive is that life comes so easily to them for a long time. Eventually their looks fade and if they haven’t gotten their ducks in a row they’re screwed because none of their shortcuts/charisma work anymore like it used to.
WhateverWorks · 36-40
I see it a lot now in my late 30s. Lots of people who got by on their looks are now kinda up a creek without a paddle. Some of them are aware of how their looks fading has affected their life and others are still acting as though they walk on water very confused why they aren’t being so doted upon anymore @SW-User
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That’s why people need to not be soo narcissistic and have goals in life other than looking like a movie star. Looks fade away. See how many beautiful women look nothing like their young selves when they age. They don’t even look like they’re the same person. @WhateverWorks
WhateverWorks · 36-40
There’s truth to that, but also for people who are exceptionally attractive by common standards there are many who don’t need to do that much. It’s just their genetics. Sure they can do their hair, make up, clothes etc. but at the end of the day their body is their body, their face is their face. Those kind of people get the world handed to them at a young age before they really understand why. Without parental guidance to resist frequently taking short cuts to what they want their looks kinda plop them on an easy road when people are quick to make things easy for them. I’m sure that easy road is a frequent temptation that’s difficult to pass up. For this reason in many ways what becomes of many of them is sad @SW-User
workinghard · 51-55, M
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Who? @Dshhh
Dshhh · M
@SW-User i wont drop entire names,. TOS and all but
search for those names,, you WILL find some astounding girls.
search for those names,, you WILL find some astounding girls.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
Carazaa · F
@iamonfire696 I agree, I am NOT proud, but once much younger I drove to work putting on my makeup listening to loud music I went through a red light and heard the sirens behind me. The cop said "How long do you think you have driven with me behind with sirens?" I said " I have no idea because my music was loud and I was putting on my make up and didn't see you, sorry sir." He laughed and said you drove 75 miles an hour, didn't stop for a red light, your lights aren't working and you drove for 10 minutes without stopping for a Highway patrol, this is a warning. But now I drive very slow. I think he was wrong but I am grateful. But I felt so ashamed and knew it was wrong!
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
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@Elanor True, they become shallow from their looks which isn’t great for the people around them.