I Love Being An Independent Woman

Do you know how difficult it is to find someone that I actually want to date? I have only been on OkCupid for about a little over a month and I'm already exhausted. A good portion of the time I want to shut down my account.
I could meet someone in person but I don't go out much. When I do go out, it's with friends or family. I don't go out to bars or clubs because it isn't my scene. I'm not 22 anymore. Also can you really find someone with substance at one of those places? Also everyone here is like 12 compared to me because this is a college town.
I'm also not helping myself by not wanting kids.
I'm also not helping myself that I'm not desperate and lonely for love.
I'm a strong, independent woman. I don't need no man. I really don't. People aren't meant to complete each other and fix each other. We can support each other and be there for each other. However ultimately individuals need to help themselves.
Sometimes it just would be nice to have that special someone or whatever. But I'm not going to commit to someone that I don't want to commit to.