Does Love really come slow and ever go that fast? [I Dealing With Breakups]

If something special ended is it better to never forget that person and always stay in their lives, you know just keep their memories and photos and don’t change status or anything, let other people think that you still talk?
Or is better to completely let that person go and delete everything, change all status and updates and throw out old memories and not see or speak to them again?
I don’t agree with a rebound but is that the most logic option for a woman who doesn’t let go of love because it’s that hard to find easy?
And promiscuous? Is that healthy for a woman to become following a long term thing?

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dragonfly46 · F

I don't know what is healthy for others, I can only comment on my experiences. What is right for me doesn't make it right for others.
Right after a break up with someone significant and long term, I cut all contact. Much later, after we healed and moved on, one ex is my friend. I could not think clearly or what was best for me if in contact with an ex. Too many feelings driving my decisions, those decisions have never been good for me, even if they helped me temporarily. I was not okay with sacrificing myself in the interest of immediate relief. Learning that took time.
I also never wanted to get over one by being under another. Another example of self harm that is covered in immediate satisfaction. Being alone for awhile, learning to be comfortable with being alone, is one of the best lessons I've ever learned.