How do you forgive people?

I used the group title overhead because I know Jesus Christ has forgiven me. Now it is my duty to forgive others.

I have had a LOT of bad things done to me in my life by bad people. If you read my Featured story here under my Profile you will know what I'm talking about although the story was long enough so I had no room to list them all. But I've truly been thru the wringer. I had a terrible scary abusive childhood. I had the mother from Hell. In my younger years I had physically and emotionally abusive boyfriends. Later I fell in love with a man who died of lung cancer and right after he died I found out he'd married one of the many women he'd been cheating on me with (he married her on my birthday in the resort town where we'd spent a very romantic weekend); I wasn't even invited to his funeral. I still visit his grave now and then. The heartbreaks never seemed to quit in my life.

So...I need all the tips I can get on how to forgive people. It's hard to forgive when you'd still like to throttle these peopke and then toss them over a high cliff with sharp rocks below it. This is not how Jesus handled those who hurt him; He forgave those who harmed Him. I would like to do the same.