I Am Trying to Find Happiness

Went through this and occasionally go through it randomly at times. Sometimes people say not what they mean but what they know. Like if they know tough love that is all they will give and if they don't know that things things they say or do hurt you then they won't know what those words mean to you. Don't be afraid to speak your truth and your feelings. What people think of you is nothing, it is what you think of yourself. If you put all your energy in how they think of you or how people see you you will be depleted every day. Wake up for you and not for anyone else. It took me a few years to learn that because my sister used to tear me down everyday and call me names and I used it as my fuel. I agreed with her and the words she says but then proved her wrong and that gave me great satisfaction later and pissed her off that I wasn't what she made me think I was. It released a lot of hatred I was holding on to and a weight was lifted. You matter to someone whether you realize it yet or not, gt out of your comfort zone and be around different people that encourage you and like you for you!

No way you will find ANY happiness as long as you give up your power to other people's opinions....you seem you believe the negative things they say...are they correct about you? As long as you let them control your thoughts and feelings about yourself you will never be happy. THEY won't change...YOU have to change..."there is no way to happiness, happiness IS the way"

I have been there. Seriously.

Your happiness comes from inside you.

I can give you a billion dollars but you still won't be happy if you aren't happy within inside yourself

Yes, that's called toxic parenting. Constructive criticism is something that helps you and is delivered with love, and it is usually balanced by telling you something positive about yourself, to build you up, and is followed by a hug.

As the daughter of a toxic mother, I really do sympathize. Recognizing that your parents are narcissistic is the first step toward standing strong in your own place, ignoring the awful things that are said to you, and going forward in life with the things that make YOU happy.

Sorry to hear, sounds like a really toxic environment. You seem interesting with a lot going for you actually, they probably want whats best for you in terms of what they think is best for them but they're disconnected with how they come off.

It's hard to change parents especially, I'd just start telling them that I don't appreciate the criticism and i'm doing just fine, then my next goal would be to move towards getting out of that environment. I've been through this a bit myself and I know it's very draining and unhealthy, hope you feel better soon.

Very relatable. I'm sorry you're going through that.

Happiness is what you make it

If this has only just started happening, there must be a reason. I would find out what the reason is and sort it out. Not easy I know 👍

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