I Believe Maturity Comes With Experience, Not Age

Being old is like being intelligent or being rich - it opens doors both toward and away from wisdom.

Being intelligent can let you look more deeply at things to cut through pretense and find the truth, or it can make you think you're so smart that you already have the answers. Being rich can let you travel the world, take classes, and do a million other things that expand your experience of life, or it can take away your drive to reach for new horizons. Getting older is the same way - it gives you time to grow as a person, and to experience the events that expand your inner-world, but it can also make you more and more set in your ways, to the point where you stop trying to grow as a person.

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Shadowghost123

Obviously in a perfect world we would always want to become more and more intelligent. However looking at intelligent people that are advanced beyond their years they are often social separated from most people.

The often do not understand why people feel a certain way or act a way such as foolishly. For they have been away from that stage of life so long it is no longer remembered or needed.

My question is since we do not live in a perfect world where most people are constantly trying to become more intelligent. What do we do? Do we stick to being intelligent and let our once social connections fall apart? or do we compromise and try to do ok at both having a social life and becoming more intelligent?

BlueDiver · 36-40, M

I'm not even sure where to start - it sounds like you believe that IQ-type intelligence is more important than almost anything else. It sounds like you think that people with a high IQ are better than other people. It sounds like you measure the quality of the world by how much people strive to become more intelligent, rather than based on how much people try to be good, or show kindness to others.

The thing is that social intelligence is just as important as IQ intelligence. In some areas of life it's more important. There's also the kind of intelligence that's about knowing yourself, rather than seeing yourself through a lens based on who you wish you were.

Maybe the reason you struggle at forging social connections with other people isn't because you have a high IQ - maybe you struggle with it because you put too much value on the areas where you're strong, and not enough value on the areas where you're weak - and that keeps you from growing as a person.

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