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I Have Been Abused

Hey guys just thought I would finally write about about my abusive Marriage and my escape from it it all started about 20 years ago when in school I met this girl and honestly I fell for her the second I saw her and ended up teasing her and fooling around until I finally plucked up the courage to ask her out and lucky for me I found out she felt the same way and for 3 years we stayed together until the horror of the fact she was switching schools and for 6 months we were kept apart until I requested to be moved to the same school as her and with a heck of a lot of fighting and arguing with the people in charge I got my wish and I wound up right where she was good right well not really cuz in the 6 months we were apart we had actually grown apart and ended up separating and when she left that was the last I would see of her or so I thought cuz fast forward 9 years and in the facebook era I decided to look her up this was to be the biggest mistake o0f my life cuz after a few weeks of talking she decided to come see me and sure enough when she came over old feelings resurfaced and we ended up back together and sadly that's where the romantic part of the story ends and my 5 years of pure misery started cuz after a couple of months I decided to move in with her and quickly started to realise that this was not the girl I knew all those years ago she was almost Evil it was OK for about 6 months and then came the night that she threw the first punch I have no idea what possessed her to do it we were having a fight about her favourite subject Money and she just hauled off and slugged me I know now that that was my Q to leave but of course like a lot of abusers the Tears and the apologies followed and ,like a sucker I fell right for it this kept on for 2 years and then the most hideous thing of all happened she out and out blackmailed me and decided that she needed more of a commitment to which I refused and in response she says Either you marry me or I'm gonna go out and get Pregnant and claim it yours and given the fact that this woman was abusive and already had 2 kids taken from her by the authorities and given how mentally beaten down I was at this point I agreed to marry her cuz I was not gonna be responsible for bringing a child into this mess so Marry her I did and for 3 years the mental and physical abuse continued until one day I was browsing the Internet and came across a site called EP and once I learned about that place I saw it as aplace to vent and meet some new people and along the way I met a girl that was living about 200 miles away and we became close so close infact that I ended up baring my soul to her and telling her what was going on to which she replied that she had fallen for me and i9n turn I had fallen for her 2 the only trouble was she was a lot younger than me and getting out of Portsmouth where she lived would be a big deal for her but she was the one that gave me the courage to get away from this abusive vile woman and we ended up together only trouble was the scars that I had been left with mentally destroyed my relationship and she left me 2 years ago I still blame my EX wife for that but thankfully I'm on medication and am now in Therapy trying to deal with what my EX wife did to me and happy to report that I'm now on the mend and have even met a new girl that I'm seeing now my Ex wife nearly destroyed me but I've come to realise I'm not that weak timid guy anymore and as hard as she tried she will never ever destroy me
Wow!.....thanks for posting. you don't hear many stories of female narc abuse. It's so unfair that it's the easy going empathetic people they attach themselves too.
But then, that's how they work, they are like emotional vampires....and they find someone easy to suck dry.
So if you have an open heart.....you're an easy target.

I hope you manage to keep your heart open....it's not easy.
These people do so much damage, and it's hard to learn to trust again.

Good luck with your life....and I hope you find someone worthy of you.馃憤
Diesel9536-40, MVIP
@BoobooSnafu Thank you honestly it took me a long time to finally come out of denial and escape it all but thankfully I'm on my way to recovery now
silentwriter18051-55, F
I'm sorry you went through that. No one should have to. I'm glad you wrote about it, though. That takes a lot of courage and is a good step toward healing and letting go. I know that from personal experience.
Diesel9536-40, MVIP
@silentwriter180 Thank you I spent a long time living in denial about what happened and that was why my next relationship failed but I've had a lot of new arrivals in my life since then that gave me the strength to finally write this down I just hope that it helps victims realise that they are not alone
silentwriter18051-55, F
It helps to have good people around you, I know. Just keep your head up and be around those who are positive. It's important. I was abused as well. A bit different, as it was my father who abused me and my mother. But still, abuse is abuse. *hugs*
Diesel9536-40, MVIP
@silentwriter180 My little army of Nieces and Nephews are keeping me strong right now and must admit I'm kinda seeing someone right now but it's hard cuz of the trust issues I have with women right now so I'm kinda keeping her at arms length
Sarahsummersrockz18-21, F
Some ppl shouldn't be allowed out in the world. She's dangerous in many ways.

 
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