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How do you cope with or deal with a "loved one" who has been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder?

...in addition to 4 other clinical diagnosis, when this person refuses any kind of treatment...馃槖uuuuufffff..smhsfm!!!
Adogslife61-69, M
It can be ok. It can get complicated too. Holding a job can be difficult. Reality can be a challenge as your never quite sure what the truth is. They're also highly emotional. All of the above have nothing to do with their intelligence.

The photo below is the best way I can explain it. The Wise Mind is usually a larger area in people without BPD. With BPD, the emotional and reasonable sides are larger, but don't meld well together into wise thought.

Adogslife61-69, M
@Teddybear: yes, so is my older daughter. I completely understand. I believe treatment would be best in a hospital program with long term tools vs traditional therapy.
TeddybearM
@Adogslife: the challenging part is trying to get the person to accept some kind of treatment is necessary to make positive, acceptable strides for the better. No change is possible without the desire to change coming from within.
TeddybearM
@Adogslife: I do empathize with you for what your daughter has gone through. At what age became known to you as her dad that she had difficulties?
Nyanperona26-30, T
My roommates cousin who is also a very dear person to me has BPD and a few other things. When shes on her meds things rlly do improve for her but there so expensive she cant afford them. The best you can do is be there for them and also keep a look out for certain behaviours. If they refuse meds see if theyd be willing to do cousling. Dilectical Behaviour Therapy is a great way to help with BPD.
TeddybearM
The thing is that this person does not want anything.to do with any type of treatment whatsoever. Is very hard headed, very stubborn in age old ways. To the point that none of her children want anything to do with her now at this stage in her life. If they do, it's just to see what they can get out of her when they are in some type of need themselves.
TeddybearM
I do understand about the person being very dear, because they are in their good, sweet moods. Which don't last for too long tho
Nyanperona26-30, T
@Teddybear: Sadly then the only option there can be if there bad enough is time it wisely and firce them to get help. If they show dangerous behaviours (my friend will take sever risks that put her life on the line) call 911 sady they will hav no choice but to get treatment then and that should only be last resort
SweetMae70-79, F
Love them as best you can and protect your own well being in the process. Not an easy task.
TeddybearM
Exactly...that's it. It's not essay at all@
DarinaF
you should know...you're not to blame
you should know that this disease can not be cured...
you should know...you have to live your life...
you should know...you have to put a barrier...what can and can not
for a sick person ...
you should know...you should talk to a sick person...like a child...
TeddybearM
@xal132: thanks for your feedback...馃憤

Some things are easier to do than others...I do agree with you...馃憣
Syktur26-30, M
Know your own limits (like when you should stop dealing with their shit). Know that BPD people are good manipulators, don't let yourself become a victim to manipulation. Those are just a couple. I have BPD, I have done the research.
TeddybearM
I been doing my research. Just found this out by reading all diagnosis. Surprisingly, the description fits this person to the T.
Thingschange444451-55, M
Just deal with it. Bpd is just a label. Forget long term pharmacuetical crap. Gym and healthy lifestyle and food will make life so much more bearable for the person diagnosed.
TeddybearM
@Perry4444: is middle age. And I don't want to say that as it goes: "that it's difficult for an old dog to change its ways" because I believe one can make positive changes once person decides they need to change for the better. Most everything is possible when we put our minds to it. But when it's a matter of dealing with a chemical imbalance...I don't know.
Thingschange444451-55, M
@Teddybear: Chemical imbalances can be changed. Short term theres the anti depressant solution like quetriapine. Mirtazapine etc but tbh not good drugs at all. Check out drJohn Bergman on youtube. He covers lots of health aspects but does one on retraining the brain. Something u may want to check out now u may have to learn how to understand this persons condition. Even if they are initially in denial.
TeddybearM
@Perry4444: I been checking out utube. My effort is to try to understand these illnesses so I may become more understanding (through education) for the sake of all involved/effected by this person's cruel behavior (tantrums).
DarinaF
I'm sorry...that's what I was taught in University
TeddybearM
@xal132: awwwhhhh...You don't have to be sorry sweetie!

I understand your opinion...your feedback! I appreciate your time and you taking it to share it with me..of what your thinking is on this...it's very complicated!
Jackaloftheazuresand26-30, M
I revel in the vitriol
uncalled456-60, M
I had a coworker who had that issue. Dealing with someone else now who might have it. It's hellish.
Adogslife61-69, M
@Teddybear: yup, the wise mind is too small. talk to someone at a local hospital and see if they've had any successful programs. for this issue, traditional therapy has proved useless (not that you shouldn't try). the bigger the team you assemble for assistance, the better.
uncalled456-60, M
Question for anyone: is narcissism/lack of empathy or sympathy a BPD symptom?
TeddybearM
@Adogslife: I agree. I've known about of gathering all loved ones and doing interventions, the more, the better. All of us have tried at one point or another but with no success. As the saying goes:"we can lead a horse to water but we can't force it to drink"!
Moonwiddle46-50, F
You just have to mostly put up with them if you love them.
TeddybearM
True. The thing is that all the cruel and insane drama kills the love in time little by little.

 
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