Are you afraid to become someone you hate but realize youre slowly becoming them?

For years I've grown to despise my father. Not only for his cynical and bitter demeanor but also the fact he always seemed so distant and difficult to build a relation with? We never had father to son talks. I didnt learn about life lessons or the birds and the bees from him. We never went on fishing trips or tossed a football around. Now that I'm getting older I'm understanding why he is so cynical about the world. Why he always seems angry or frustrated.

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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

I think there comes a point where the roles have to reverse.

Speaking personally. My Father grew more distant after he left home when I was 10.
We were in and out of each others lives for a long time.
Then once I had independence and was living on my own he seemed to want to be part of my life.
And then of course as you partner-up and look to having children of your own the relationship changes again.

But persist with it. More on what you can build rather than what you wish it were.

robbie2499 · 61-69, F

But you absolutely do not have to turn into him. You're now an adult. Maybe it's time to let go of your past; it will smother you otherwise.

raysam363 · 31-35, F

No, but I'm worried I'm influencing my family in a bad way. I don't want anyone to be like me.

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One often meets his fate on the path he takes to avoid it

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