I’ve been told by a number of people that if you’re seeing a new therapist that you should test out the waters first

like, tell them bit by bit before really going deep into what’s bothering you…

But how exactly do you do that?

SW-User

Just talk about trivial stuff first, therapists are presumably used to the idea that people aren't going to lay it all out on the table right away.

Fishy · F

@SW-User I've got my first appointment with her tomorrow,

wish me luck lol

SW-User

@Fishy

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

Just talk honestly with your therapist.
Why has everything got to be a test ?

Have a session or three before making any judgement.

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SW-User

@Picklebobble2 Oh, give me a fucking break. Walk a mile in my shoes and you won't wag your finger at me EVER again. You have [i]zero [/i]moral credibility.

Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M

@SW-User

I'm not finger wagging it just sounds like you want to try different people on until you find one who might actually agree with the way you think when maybe they're trying to tell you something.

SW-User

@Picklebobble2 Stop trying to assign motivation to me when you don't know anything about why I might be in a therapist's office in the first place.

Graylight · 51-55, F

Any good therapist will first establish a rapport and create a safe space in which you can share a much or as little as you want. They will coax some details but allow you move at your own pace. It's your time, your money, your well being.

SW-User

Just remember my experience of telling it all to a new therapist in the first session. I soon got a call from the manager saying the therapist was uncomfortable with me and cancelled my next at.

Tarxarin · 26-30, M

Do you respect them? What are their values? Beliefs, what do they enjoy do they like their job? Etc.

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