Anyone got any advice on getting out there socially and to become acustomed to the world and stuff?

Hi there everybody, I'm Cooper802Forever and I'm an introvert, I have major anxiety when it comes to getting myself out there, weather it's getting a job, going out, living life, or making friends. So I wanna start getting my life together and attempting to be more out there, but I'm very anxious and scared, I don't usually go out and socialize with many people at all, and I feel like I need to somehow become accustomed to being in the presence of people, and just the enviroment. And its been hard on me because i don't do anything about it, i myself and others have been wanting me to get a job and go out more, but im just extremely scared and anxious. This is why ive started feeling this pain in my heart because i myself feel like I'm hopeless and that I'm a nuisance or a burden and it hurts.

And I was wondering if there'd be anything I could do to dip my toes into that somesort of atmosphere where I can be accustomed to seeing people, or anything you think I could do to better myself when it comes to this.

Cause I was actually thinking maybe going to the gym would provide me with a sort of atmosphere of seeing people everyday, and just focusing on myself. Does this seem like a good idea? Please give me your advice/opinions on the matter because I want to get over this and get out there! 🙂

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RenaissanceMan

Take more walks. Everywhere. Practice saying hi/hello to as many people as possible. You'll be surprised how many people will engage you!

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

its good to get some therapy if you feel like your a nuisance or burden those are signs of mild depression. the gym is a really good idea because there are people around but you will learn that they are all focused on their workout and not thinking about you so you can calmly walk around and see the same people from day to day. try just starting conversations in restaurants. I met a couple friends that way.

Cooper802Forever · 22-25, M

@Girlyfriendcollecting Thanks for the advice, and yeah my relatives been wanting me to go with them to the gym but I never accepted lol. I'm a person who is pretty much like a house hermit the lol and I have like almost no confidence and stuff so I just thought the gym would be a good place for me to gain some from focusing on my health and all that.

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@Cooper802Forever yes fantastic. 😊

ChatterinSeuss · 61-69, M

If your profile is correct,, you are very young.. I would say if you are looking for a job, try volunteering at a hospital or at organizations where people want to talk to you and get to know you,,, start slow..I know its not easy meeting people if you are anxious.. seek therapy go to group functions,,, I know many will tell you go to church,, but you are trying to stay away from pressure.. lots of luck and hope all works well for you

MarmeeMarch · M

Na the gym has ppl that are too much into their workout - my suggestion is church and get involved at some function , spend less time on the computer though.

MikeSp · 56-60, M

Find a small church with a college-age group. You will fit in and they are very accepting. You don't have to attend the services if you are not comfortable. However, if you sit with your new friends in the back or the balcony, you will be fine.
You are not hopeless or a nuisance or burden. That negative talk is dragging you down. Replace it with positive affirming thoughts.
Take steps one at a time to come out of your shell, and soon you will be fully functioning and these issues will be in the past.

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