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What is the difference between 'settling' and healthy compromise?

Hmmm.
summersong · F
A compromise is deciding to meet someone in the middle. Settling means you’re living with the feeling that you should have something better.
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
@summersong or be somewhere else?
No compromise is healthy ... trick question!

Compromise is lose-lose

Settling is a free market resolution based on differences of power and desires.

Two entirely different approaches
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
@questionWeaver So a healthy relationship is mostly collaboration and settling?

I refuse to say hmmm again.
@EmilyEdith yes ... collaboration is a successful path, but it requires willingness and shared goals

Settling, often feels forced ... but it can work well in emergency situations

Both are healthy

Disengagement and compromise lead to failure
acpguy · C
@EmilyEdith You end up creating a snowflake, narcissist or someone that never matures because you are not being honest with them if they are wrong or you are giving in which is also not honest. Most things are black and white and we have to accept there is no such thing as almost dead, you are or you aren't. Liberal education gives awards to those who do not win and have created the tender snowflakes we have to day they do not understand that you win or you do not. Compromise or settling does nothing for either person that is not good.
4meAndyou · F
Settling is a term usually used to describe someone desperate, who wants to achieve a goal REALLY badly, (such as marriage, or an awesome job), and just can't hit it...so that person decides to marry the boring, ugly person they don't love, or accepts the mediocre job.

Healthy compromise is realizing that you can't always achieve unrealistic dreams, but you can still be really happy with what you've got.
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
I don't know if this is the real difference or just the difference to me but settling is a no win situation while healthy compromise means there's a plus in there somewhere.
acpguy · C
Look at what it got us. Joe Creepy Biden and the liberals / socialists running this country into hell.
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
@acpguy hahaha so do you feel we are more settling than compromising there?
🤖💩
acpguy · C
@EmilyEdith No, the liberals and Rinos voted for Biden due to TDS which is caused by a bad case of stupid and that is what they got yet the idiots didn't want stupid. No settling, no compromise just stupid.
Trippy · F
The difference either way is in chosing to maintain your integrity where as neither remains an option.
KatSch · 41-45, F
I would say settling is something less than a compromise.
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
@KatSch ya it sounds like you lost, doesn't it?
Rolexeo · 26-30, M
I think settling is like marrying someone even though you'd rather be with somebody else because for whatever reason you can't be with who you ideally would marry. Healthy compromise is being with who you want to be with, cause you ACTUALLY love them and sacrificing for eachother and trying to meet eachothers needs.
Rolexeo · 26-30, M
@questionWeaver idk about that, if all objectives were the same there'd be no need to change anything at all
@Rolexeo

People 90% of the time have mutual shared objectives but starkly different ways to go about achieving the objectives

They argue over "how" ... not the "what"

Collaboration is the best path on resolving "How".

10% of the time, people argue over what they want to achieve ... thus different objectives

Compromise splits them further apart ... till they wonder why they are married
Rolexeo · 26-30, M
@questionWeaver oh shared values is what you're advocating for, I see. I meant more along the lines of meeting eachothers unique needs
fun4us2b · M
Honest understanding @EmilyEdith
EmilyEdith · 56-60, F
@fun4us2b acceptance?
fun4us2b · M
@EmilyEdith Ultimately, there’s a fine line between surrender and acceptance...you have to know what you are doing so you don’t lose yourself.
SW-User
A compromise is meeting common ground, settling is wanting out but staying cos it’s convenient.
MagicaloneANRABF · 56-60, M
Settling is like giving in.....a healthy compromise is an agreed upon solution
LunarOrbit · 56-60, M
Kinda like tolerating vs accepting.
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