Should you give up all your secrets? I have a friend who was divorced after 9 years of marriage...

Truth is the most important part of life. She could have rejected him immediately. She didn’t.

SW-User

She should not of asked if she wasn't prepare to forgive.
Secrets can damage a relationship, too.
She may have found out on her own in time with same results.

RubySoo · 56-60, F

Whatever it was, it was her decision to accept it....or try to. They probably shouldbt have remarried because she clearly wasnt 100% with what he confessed.
Its a shame however you look at it.
Of course.....it really woukd depend on what it was hed actually done.

There are things id not share with my husband because i know he wouldnt approve, eventhough its not morally wrong, illegal or hurt anyone. I just know hed really not like and find it hard to accept.

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

Of course not! You know how many bodies I had to bury just to keep the ones I got?

fun4us2b · M

To a degree, “transparency “ seems to be overrated...we live in an age of TMI...it is sad that these two people that really seemed like they wanted to be together were broken up by a dark secret...(how dark, we don’t know) I hope they can find peace ☮️

Ingwe · F

a secret like that..you have to share and take the fallout
it was a huge thing ...silly nonsense you can keep to yourself

looking at the comments
seems like people live in the dark and keep their dirty there

BecaA57 · 61-69, F

That's tricky really. I think some secrets should always remain a secret. Especially the ones that have very little chance of coming to light. And are as his was out there

MrAboo · 36-40, M

Yes, Whatever he said he should’ve just kept it to himself.

FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, F

12 step program:

https://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/en_step5.pdf

SomeMichGuy · M

wtf...she was an idiot to not think through this ask...

TexChik · F

Secrets should be just that, secret.

BridgeOvertroubledWaters · 61-69, M

I wonder what the secret was

Thatsright · 61-69, M

Loneliness is powerful, they tried

darkknightt · M

tell us the secret

SensualRomantic · 46-50, M

Do you know the secret?

BridgeOvertroubledWaters · 61-69, M

Scarey

Thatsright · 61-69, M

Yes

REMsleep · 41-45, F

Yes,depending on whats important to you and the outcome that you would prefer.
If it were me and my husband had told me that he'd been with men I would not like it.
Thats an example but for me I prefer total honesty no matter the outcome in most cases.