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I Am Fascinated By Human Behavior

“ If you and my son get a divorce , I rather not be a part of my grandchildren’s life at all “

Well, I was being nice when I told her that I would love for her to be a part of the children’s life no matter how the reconciliation efforts end and in all honesty her answer brought me a sense of relief .
However , I still can’t understand this one!
What kind of a grandmother would say that?
Maybe someone here can explain that to me ..
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28 replies 71 views Oct 23, 2018
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KaTeeEvent · 36-40, F
Perhaps this explains some of her son’s behavior with greater clarity.
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@Ynotisay
It certainly doesn’t !
Specially when the tree lives right next to the Apple and the apples visits her 3 times a day 😉
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KaTeeEvent · 36-40, F
I hope you’re feeling more grounded these days and perhaps a bit less anxious. I read some of ur previous posts and feel for u.@SW-User
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SW-User
Thank you
I’m definitely stronger ...
I got to know people around me a bit more than I needed but I’m sure it will help my in the long run.
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hlpflwthat · M
The kind of grandmother who reared your soon-to-be ex?
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LyricalOne · F
Sounds like the woman’s picnic is missing a few sandwiches.
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HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
I can’t. But I pretty much lived it when my ex and I divorced. My kids were 4 and not even a year old. My ex MIL actually told me I should have never had my son.
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@HeavenBesideYou
Sorry to hear that!
It’s amazing how cold hearted and selfish some eoe can be.
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HeavenBesideYou · 56-60, F
@SW-User Honestly it was fine. I just told the ex his parents could contact and/or see the kids every other week when he had them and to make sure they knew not to contact me ever again.
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SW-User
Wise move.👍
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ineedadrink · 51-55, M
She is a whack job. Making a clean break with her is obviously for the best, keep her from contaminating your kids with her rotteness.
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@ineedadrink
All our friens know and even say that my mother in law and my husband are abnormally close and codependent.
She only wants him anyway.
I Dont have to keep them away . I have simply stopped trying to make them spend time with her .
I guess everyone is happy now 😏
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ineedadrink · 51-55, M
@SW-User Two words come to mind regarding him & her: Wow & yuck. Something weird there.
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JustNik · 51-55, F
I think it solves the mystery of what the hell happened to her son. Genetic assishness. 😑 my heart goes out to you and the kids Nilou. 🤗
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@JustNik
Lol!
You are probably right !
I’m ok.
It actually made me feel a bit relieved .
No matter how much of a pain in the neck she has been, I really didn’t want her to be hurt by not having the children around much.
Seems like that not a concern anyway 😏
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SW-User
God knows..is she very traditional? Maybe she just can’t bear the “shame”...shame on her! I hope she comes around for you and your kids xx
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@SW-User
She is traditional when she likes to be...
Again, I’m completely lost on that one!
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softspokenman · M
She will disown her grandchildren if you divorce her son ? When they grow up they will understand the truth.
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@softspokenman
They already knnow how things go ...
If they ever stay at her place , she refuses to feed them until Theron father gets there. No matter how hungry they are!
All that matters to her is to keep her food optimal temperature and quality till my husband gets to her house !
No one I know does that! Regardless of culture or generation ...🙄
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softspokenman · M
Good. No one I know does that either. There have been family and friends that have gotten divorced in the past but the grandparents loved and took care of their grandchildren no matter what happened. They didn't blame the kids or create more pain for them. Sorry to hear that Nilou. @SW-User.
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diablesse · 56-60, F
The self centered kind who doesn't really love them, the kind who raised your soon to be ex.
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@diablesse
We have decided to go through reconciliation and see how it goes ...
However , She certainly has not done him a favor raising him this way .
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diablesse · 56-60, F
Good luck. I hope it works out.
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Haniazed
You’ll never understand people like that and that’s OK. Your kids are better off without her in their lives...
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NudasPriest · 46-50, M
It is [i]possible[/i] that she spoke these words in a moment of anger ... perhaps hoping to hurt you with them, but not genuinely meaning them ... only time will tell.

You can't control her actions, only your own. If you do separate, then all you can do is provide opportunities for her to see your kids ... whether she will or not is up to her.
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@NudasPriest
I understand ...
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