As much as I've sympathized with people whose SOs cheated on them,

I'll never be able to put myself in the headspace of someone who's upset at their SO for cheating. Like it makes sense on a conceptual, intellectual level -- they lied to you and maybe you feel like you're not special to them anymore or something, sure. But it's like, deeper than that I'll never get that emotional sense of why it hurts people, you know? It's weird.

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Stark

It hurts because you’re vulnerable with this person and the structure and boundaries that need to be made in order to be heal can be life long and damaging to the person who’s trust was broken. I feel like it’s an unspoken law that people know cheating is wrong and not right, but I think for a lot of people unless they’ve truly experienced it themselves it’s hard to put themselves in the position of how it truly feels, because it’s one of those things unless you experience it you don’t know. Even if you know it’s wrong and it should hurt.