As much as I've sympathized with people whose SOs cheated on them,

I'll never be able to put myself in the headspace of someone who's upset at their SO for cheating. Like it makes sense on a conceptual, intellectual level -- they lied to you and maybe you feel like you're not special to them anymore or something, sure. But it's like, deeper than that I'll never get that emotional sense of why it hurts people, you know? It's weird.

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Penny · 46-50, F

i guess its because its like when you get into a solid relationship with someone its like an unspoken promise that you will save all your romantic love for them. cheating is breaking that promise and letting the other person down. it hurts because it makes you feel like you weren't enough for the person, like you didnt measure up regardless if thats true or not.

BlueVeins · 22-25

@Penny see yeah the logic checks out, i'm just unable to put myself in that headspace if that makes sense

Penny · 46-50, F

@BlueVeins have you ever been in love then been cheated on?

BlueVeins · 22-25

@Penny i've never loved anyone at all

Penny · 46-50, F

@BlueVeins well, i hope you never have to find out why it hurts to be cheated on

BlueVeins · 22-25

@Penny i don't think i'm capable of it