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I Hate Guys Who Hit Women

An abuser isn't abusive 24/7. They usually demonstrate positive character traits most of the time. That's what makes the abuse so confusing when it happens, and what makes leaving so much more difficult. I know women, personally, who are physically and emotionally abused by their husbands, yet they stay and sometimes believe they are in love. I believe this is one of the reasons why this issue is still going. Abusive men will never stop abusing until women start to know their worth.

The biggest challenge is to convince a woman that it's not her fault. If your husband is abusive, you cannot ignore it. There's no excuse for a man hitting a woman. Ever. Self respect by definition is a confidence and pride in feeling that you are behaving in an honorable and dignified manner. Respect yourself and walk away.

Violence against women is the last refuge of disgusting immoral men. He who has once hit a woman, had forever killed a man in himself. Every time you mistreat a woman, you give up the right to be treated like a man.
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uncalled4 · 56-60, M
I was on the flip side of this. Toxic, abusive behavior knows no gender, sad to say. I have no self esteem issues. My point is that anyone is potentially vulnerable.
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@uncalled4 I agree with you. I know some husbands who are emotionally abused by their wives. But the difference is most men would walk away, while most women would stay.
Fernie · F
@uncalled4 No! I am not vulnerable! That is a choice!
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Madeleine This was physical, too. It's bad stuff. No one signs up for it. You turn around and realize you're with a controlling asshole.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Fernie Me neither. But unfortunately, a lot of people turn around and their sweet lover has a darkly mean streak, real Jekyll and Hyde shit. It's scary af. And yes, lots of them are charming...beware, all!
Fernie · F
@uncalled4 Why am I not vulnerable?
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Fernie Sounds like you know what to look for, as do I
Fernie · F
@uncalled4 you're right. A lot of women accept that change in their lover...but not all....the first time anyone tries to control me on ANY level...I am gone. Too many women think they are inferior to men so they allow the abuse. There are many reasons why women stay
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Fernie And guys get p whipped. I was in love. She was my type. Gorgeous. And bat shit crazy with a hair trigger. Nearly impossible to get rid of, like a bad stain.
Fernie · F
@uncalled4 you're breaking my heart....🙄
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Fernie It's not about who had a worse experience. If you had a bad one, I am sorry
Fernie · F
@uncalled4 I have been "abused" by a male 2 times in my life. I split the first one's head open with a frozen turkey...I was 10....and then in my twenties a guy slapped me across the face and if people hadn't been there to pull me off of him I would be in a woman's prison for murder. I really don't have a lot of sympathy for "abused" men.....their reasons for staying are quite different than the reasons women stay.
uncalled4 · 56-60, M
@Fernie I don't make a gender distinction when it comes to domestic violence. There's no point.