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I Have a Question

Am I an asshole?

I have started a new job. My MIL is picking the kids up from school.

My schedule is not normal yet and this is frustrating me because the people in this house seem so put off by it. (Yet they want me to have a job)

My MIL seems fine. I discuss with her anything that has to be discussed in terms of the kids schedules.

My husband never knows when he will be home from work. This is ok. No one questions that. I get questioned almost daily by my FIL because for some reason he thinks he should know everything I am doing ...my schedule...he thinks he is his wifes keeper and somehow he is ensuring that she is not doing something he thinks she should not be doing. (She is a big girl she can fend for herself)

My husband refuses to say anything to them until he explodes and says stupid shit. He tells me to say something and then does not like when I do.


I talked to my MIL last night about two activities for my daughter told her when i know the details i will tell her. I asked FIL what kind of car they have because I forgot. This is because my MIL will have to meet another child's mother for a set playdate with her child and mine. I wanted to be able to tell this mother what to be looking for. He starts questioning me about it.

I asked why.
I told him I had discussed it with my MIL and that I told her I would be providing the details. He does not need the details. He is not involved at all. He wont be driving and he will only confuse matters. He is becoming senile.

He is mad now.
My husband is treating me like an asshole now because I refused to tell my FIL the info. I wrote it all down and plan to discuss with my MIL before I go to work today.

So. Am I an asshole here?
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JerseyGal · 51-55, F
No you're not. When you've worked things out with your MIL, if she wants to explain to her husband, she can.
You just keep being you.
Sounds like someone is an asshole, but not you!