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I'm Not Married

If you're a married man I won't chat with you in public forums.
If you're a married man I won't chat with you in messages.
When I was working I saw a lot of married men two timing their wives. I had to put up with it. Those days are over and so I don't have to talk to a sleaze bag married man if I don't want to.
Guys If I find out you're married I'll tell you to stop talking to me. You still try and talk to me you're going to get blocked.

Go talk to your wife.
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chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
I take it you don't have the same set of rules for the married women who are two timing their husbands?
SW-User
I don't usually like other women.
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
Ok, so you don't like married men and you don't like other women. So, by process of elimination, the only ones you like are single men and transgenders, then?
SW-User
@chilloutab2: so what if I do?
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
Just ascertaining... you make many things very clear in your profile but also fail to make some things clear, so I wanted to get a clearer picture.

Your reply suggests you could be touchy about this... you need not be touchy about your choices. Just clear.

Btw, your answer was a non-committal one - neither a denial nor a confirmation... one would assume you may be confused. Surely, you're not? Besides, for someone who otherwise comes across as forcefully committed to her likes, dislikes and opinions, it's rather uncharacteristic to get a skirting, non-committal answer.

Just to be clear on my own part, your profile is intriguing in several ways. Hence, my comments.
SW-User
@chilloutab2: I don't like cloudiness. Ask me what you think I'm not clear on.
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
I did. You didn't answer.

So to put it in more concise words: Do you only like single men and transgenders?
SW-User
@chilloutab2: I don't like people. I really don't like other women.
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
Thanks for the clear reply. I had the right hunch then.

May I ask then, what makes you register at a social networking site such as this?

Like I said, your profile is intriguing. Everything about it is sociopathic in nature, and you even confess to not liking people in general and other women in particular. Yet here you are, reaching out to people. And the two "friends" of yours on your profile are both women, despite your strong dislike for them.

All these contradictions are what make your profile intriguing.

So, to put it concisely again: What made you register on this site despite your admitted dislike for people?
SW-User
@chilloutab2: I'm working on controlling my rage issues and therapists are useless. I decided to try sites like this.
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
Fair enough! thanks.

Is this site helping?

What non-physiological factors do you think triggers your rage?

Any physiological factors?

I was in a road accident a long time ago. One of the side effects of my injury was that it caused anger issues, despite me being quite even-tempered before the accident. I was able to come back to normal in around 4 years through a combination of medication and reflection.
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
I don't know if you've tried Metoprolol. It helped me immensely.
SW-User
Meds don't help.
I want to write about my rage and I will put up posts about it
chilloutab2 · 41-45, M
Ok, yes, writing about it could help. What worked for me was to sit myself down and think long and hard about the reason I got angry and then tackle those reasons, such as thinking about myself and about the people around me differently, avoiding certain "trigger" situations for a while, etc.

I suppose you'd be doing the same thing while writing about your rage, so that would be a good thing to do.

Also, I found elevated levels of adrenaline added to my rage. So I ignored the drugs that were prescribed to me, such as anti-depressants, tranquilizers, etc... and self medicated on Metoprolol, which is an adrenaline inhibitor. It worked.

That coupled with regular strenuous exercise, which made use of all the excess adrenaline and therefore reduced their levels at rest.

I also avoided foods that built up excess sugar in my system, which is an open invitation to adrenaline to break down the sugar. Also, caffeine increases adrenal activity so I avoided it like the plague.

My method of tackling the problem was both physiological and psychological - a two pronged attack. Depending on whether your case is more psychological or physiological, you might want to try various approaches.

And yes, therapists don't work... you need to go on gathering information, look inwards and find out yourself what works best for you.