I Love Making People Happy
The Difference Between Give and Take... My need for people I care about to be happy consumes me! It is an involuntary compulsion that gets magnified exponentially when I am the cause of their unhappiness...
I don't notice till I have run out of ideas and nothing has helped. I find myself bending over backwards and giving everything I have, only to be told that I am making matters worse!
If you have tried relentlessly to make someone else happy, only to have your efforts be the next reason you've upset them... You have been snared by an energy vampire! They trap you in a perpetual struggle, always demanding more from you, yet never revealing how futile your efforts.
If you continue giving your energy to this vampire, it's like a dinner bell that calls every other vampire in the neiborhood! Soon, everyone in your life is going to learn that, in order for them to get what they want from you or to get you to be nice to them, all they need to do is find something wrong with what you are doing.... and so the cyclical cycle begins...
When you are told everything you do is wrong, you can't think, you lose confidence and as a result, inevitably screw everything up... This is one of the hardest things to change... it is going to take a long time to re-train people to treat you in a more healthy way... but it is definitely worth it!
TWO THINGS TO REMEMBER:
1) It is going to get worse before it gets better because these people in your life, whom you have taught to treat you this way, are not going to like the change and are going to push back for a while... Just stay strong and eventually your life will be filled with healthy happy relationships.
2) Never let your gaurd down. Energy vampires can never be cured. Taking away their food source, is like pushing a boulder uphill... If you turn your back for a minute, your boulder will be at the bottom of the hill before you even notice!
I don't notice till I have run out of ideas and nothing has helped. I find myself bending over backwards and giving everything I have, only to be told that I am making matters worse!
If you have tried relentlessly to make someone else happy, only to have your efforts be the next reason you've upset them... You have been snared by an energy vampire! They trap you in a perpetual struggle, always demanding more from you, yet never revealing how futile your efforts.
If you continue giving your energy to this vampire, it's like a dinner bell that calls every other vampire in the neiborhood! Soon, everyone in your life is going to learn that, in order for them to get what they want from you or to get you to be nice to them, all they need to do is find something wrong with what you are doing.... and so the cyclical cycle begins...
When you are told everything you do is wrong, you can't think, you lose confidence and as a result, inevitably screw everything up... This is one of the hardest things to change... it is going to take a long time to re-train people to treat you in a more healthy way... but it is definitely worth it!
TWO THINGS TO REMEMBER:
1) It is going to get worse before it gets better because these people in your life, whom you have taught to treat you this way, are not going to like the change and are going to push back for a while... Just stay strong and eventually your life will be filled with healthy happy relationships.
2) Never let your gaurd down. Energy vampires can never be cured. Taking away their food source, is like pushing a boulder uphill... If you turn your back for a minute, your boulder will be at the bottom of the hill before you even notice!
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