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I Have Trust Issues

I don't have any problem with what they call perverts. I can read them right away to set me a strategy on how to deal with them. Perhaps I have encountered some and to my personal experience, the ones I pre judged as perverts turned out be the respectful, kind, meek and humble people.

You know why I have become so paranoid on sm?

[b]Clutches of Evil. [/b]

Connect the dots....

Have you experienced group/mob hate?
Have you been slandered?
Have you experienced betrayal?
Have you been misunderstood of intentions and never given a chance to explain yourself?
Have you ever been labeled as the jealous one, the liar, the drama queen, the catfish, lacking in loyalty?
Have you ever been spit on with the nastiest of nasty words? Even in real life, I have not experienced such.
Have you ever been spied on or scrutinized, and people feast on every little inconsistency or flaw they see in you...
Lastly, multiple profiles....

Nobody deserves such treatment.

Every bad experience compels each one of us to put up walls, so thick and wide. The stones of it are laid in scorn and plastered high with pride on both sides. There's only silence to heal the wounds.
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Livingwell · 61-69, M

I have to agree with you. Not just here but anywhere on the net. People become brave behind a screen. But they are not as anonymous as they might think. Everything leaves a fingerprint. I hope you continue here and offer your unique brand. Most of us enjoy candid conversations and original thought.

SW-User

@Livingwell They can hide behind the screen and let all the nasty out of their hearts ....The whole while they are just trying to make someone as miserable as them.

Livingwell · 61-69, M

@SW-User Exactly.

DanielChristensen · 46-50, M

I understand. Yes. I've experienced many forms of evil and it does make you cautious. Many people like me draw down into self, away from everybody. This is my window into the world.

SW-User

@DanielChristensen Thank you very much, D, for your understanding.

DanielChristensen · 46-50, M

@SW-User Of course 🤗

SW-User

@DanielChristensen 🤗

newbie · 31-35, F

I don't think I have experienced as bad behavior as what you mention in your post, but when I come across someone insensitive and rude I still try to reply in a measured and polite way. usually they either change and show their positive side or just go away after a short while.

maybe I've just been lucky so far, but i suggest you try this approach too if you feel you have issues communicating.

SW-User

@newbie Hi,
I am also like that.🙂 I can be very straightforward as I say things as I see them, and yet respectful. Sometimes I encounter trollish comments, but it's okay, I know how to put humor into it. However, the experiences I mentioned above are the aftermath of friendships gone bad. Like you met people you thought were good in the beginning, but turned bad in the end. There are just bad people around.😔

I think you are a nice person. I wish you would not encounter such bad experiences on line, because when you do, the memories stay. More so, it changes you.

newbie · 31-35, F

@SW-User i think the most important is to stay open and try not to become withdrawn and scared. Otherwise it's like the bad experience and the bad people have won! i don't know if they ever change, but we must hope that we can also meet good and positive people both online and in real life, right?

so far i guess i've been more lucky than you. or maybe you're just a super sensitive nature?

while there are many who are as you describe, I continue to stay here for the few that are real and true and one can find love here. So I stay away from the dreamers, fakers and haters and surround myself with the ones that are true.

Repete · 61-69, M

I have to agree with you on a lot of what you said I have only had one that gave me a hard time and I like to argue.but if both can't talk or argue there is two options one block them second walk away and hope they go there way. I'm sorry you have been through so much.

SW-User

@Repete Thank you. I don't like blocking but when I do, and when I walk away, know that what happened is beyond repair.

Repete · 61-69, M

I haven't blocked anyone yet and walked away one or two times one time it actually helped we could talk a little better afterwards @SW-User

Magenta · F

So true.
But I have effed up too and far from proud of myself at times.

As far as trusting...I don't worry about it ether way tbh. I see it more like expectations. I just accept that humans really aren't trustworthy. :-)

SW-User

@Magenta Aww....thank you so much M for dropping by. 🙏 Tbh, I was keeping quiet because I thought something was "off" between us. I am looking for the opportunity to say the right thing.😓

The topic I posted, we talked about it then, a lot....I know, we both know how it feels.

Happy thanksgiving, my friend. I am soooo grateful right now.

Magenta · F

Hmm it's me not you. ;-)
I withdraw sometimes, close off and keep people at a long arms length. It's nothing personal, just my personality. I prefer a lot of space, or my own space too much prob.

Yes, but I've not discussed my particular situation.

Happy Thanksgiving to you as well! 🤗

SW-User

@Magenta It was me, M. Sorry.
I am like you, too. I tend to shut down.
Yes, we talked about a lot of things in general, nobody in particular.

SomeLikeItHot ·

The way that everyone treats each other is brutal and there is no limit to the damage dished out because we can't see the pain experienced. SW is not that different than many other social medias.
We all are souls in need of healing.

SW-User

@SomeLikeItHot Thank you, my friend.

SW-User

🙋 I’m well acquainted with these type of people .... It’s the raging in their hearts that compel them to behave so evil...

SW-User

@SW-User There are just bad people around.

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