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I Hate Fake People

I lost a friend to suicide because of an online encounter and write this in memory of him.


Online communities
They promote a whole new community that prior to the Internet was not available. Although they can promote a vast array of positive qualities, they can also lead to multiple problems.
The theory of risk perception, an uncertainty in participating in an online community, is quite common, particularly when in the following online circumstances:
performances/multiple aliases 
safety,
psychological loss

Imagine two hoola-hoops. With the emersion of online communities there is a real life hoola-hoop and the other an online hoopla hoop These two hoops used to be completely separate but now they have swung together and overlap.
The problem with this overlap is that there is no distinction anymore between face-to-face interactions and virtual ones; they are one in the same. Shirky illustrates this by explaining a meeting. A group of people will sit in a meeting but they will all be connected into a virtual world also, using online communities.

A further problem is identity formation with the ambiguous real-virtual life mix. Identity formation in the real world consisted like one body one 10 identities?

The online communities allow you to create "as many electronic personae" as you please. This can lead to identity deception. Claiming to be someone you're not can be problematic with other online community users and for yourself. Creating a false identity can cause confusion and ambivalence about which identity is true.
A lack of trust regarding personal or professional information is problematic with questions of identity or information reciprocity. Often, if information is given to another user of an online community, one expects equal information shared back. However, this may not be the case or the other user may use the information given in harmful ways.

The construction of an individual's identity within an online community requires self-presentation. Self-presentation is the act of writing the self into being in which a person's identity is formed by what that person says, does, or shows. This also poses a potential problem as such self-representation is open for interpretation as well as misinterpretation. While an individual's online identity can be entirely constructed with a few of his/her own sentences, perceptions of this identity can be entirely misguided and incorrect.
Online communities present the problems of preoccupation, distraction, detachment, and desensitization to an individual. Ironically though, online support groups exist now. Basically any online community you can conceive, and if it currently does not it will in the near future or you could be the one to develop it. Online communities do present potential risks. Users must remember to be careful and remember that just because an online community feels safe does not mean it necessarily is.

What is wrong with real life ?

Why is moderation and admin tactless ?

Why are people more so judgemental online?

Anonymous websites bring out the worst in most people and they lose site of their true selves ?

Anonymous websites should have tougher regulations in place. Anyone can create a website. How would you feel signing up to a website that you later found out was a member that had stalked you?

What if Billy Madison created a new EP but did not disclose he was in fact Billy Madison?

The reason you sign up to these sites is that you are lacking something in your personal life. A lot of you are online all day everyday, have you got lives to live, did you not think about spending your time more constructively?

Do you enjoy the online arguments?

Do you enjoy watching people suffer and get bullied?

Do you trust your moderation team, you don't know who they are personally and might hold biased opinions?

It is possible because of the mental state of some they are blind to what lurks on websites where you have been given the chance to shout your own voice. You will get bullied and unless you have a thick skin you will became a target and nobody will care.

It is all about money and even the trolling creates traffic and just as in the daily news people thrive on drama.

I can't see myself staying for long here, EP was bad enough but I felt the overall intentions of EP was supportive. I have seen only jokers and attention seekers on SW thus far. With a mod/admin team that don't care and are too caught up in the moment of having a brand new toy to play with and having authority.

If that is what SW wants to be about - advertise it as such. A place to Joke, poke fun, form gangs and form multiple accounts to harass.

The replies to this will furthermore back up what I have just researched about online communities. People will gang up and say this is wrong and the admin won't agree because I am not saying how brilliant this site is.

But it is true.
Serenitree · F
Then, this definitely isnt a place for you to be. I am sorry you lost a friend. I am sorry you are sad and hurt and angry. I won't even try to tell you that your thoughts are wrong, because they aren't wrong; for you!!!


I do spend quite a lot of time here, and I did at EP as well, but I don't see it quite as you do. I know there are some evil individuals online. I know there are just as many in real life, and in real life, I can't block them or stop the attack at words. I have two daughters who are physically and emotionally disabled for life because of physical attacks by total strangers, because they were unfortunate enough to be in the wrong place.


I had an online stalker, on EP and because of him, I had to delete my first account and come back with a different name and block him before he became aware of me and recognized me by my writing style. But he didn't break my back or ribs, and he didn't assault me with his car, and he never physically harmed my childrem.

I am happy with this community. Happy with admin and the mods. I understand your feelings, but the internet is here to stay. It is one egg that can never be put back in the shell. We can't move backward, so we must move forward with caution.


Now it is the young ones who need protection, because as sophisticated as today's youth may be, they are still kids, and not so different from what I was at their age. Sure of their ability to handle anything and sure they will recognize and deal with any evil that pops into their world.

I will continue to talk to them, and as another member told me yesterday, if I can help just one, then my words won't be wasted.

Whatever you choose to do, I hope you can find peace, and get joy back in your life.
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Cinnamon · 31-35, F
Fargolover there is a lot of truth in what you are saying and I respect that it is coming from thinking deeply over the loss of your friend. I am sorry for your loss and I hope your words will help some people to really think over these issues you are bringing up.
fargolover · 70-79, F
kind of you and nice to see a young lady with respect not often seen onlinex

 
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