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I Am Sick Of Parents Who Don't Parent

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“If anyone can be called the boss in modern, anti-hierarchical parenthood, it’s the children.” [b]~ Leonard Stern, M.D.[/b] , in [i]“The Collapse of Parenting: How We Hurt Our Kids When We Treat Them Like Grown-Ups”[/i] [c=#BF0000]http://amzn.to/2wE9ogW[/c]

“Parents who are authoritative have better outcomes, and it’s a larger effect than the effect of race, ethnicity, household income or IQ.”[b] ~ Ibid.[/b]

“In Western society, where equality for everyone has become a cultural objective and a constitutional right, children are treated like they are one more minority group to honor and empower. Empower has come to seem virtuous......Empower everyone, why not?” [b]~ Ibid[/b]

“But many kids are actually overpowering their parents. That’s the problem, say those working in child development. A functional family unit hinges on the one social construct that contemporary society has been working hard to dismantle: hierarchy. You need a strong alpha presentation to inspire a child to trust you and depend upon you.” [b]~ child psychologist Gordon Neufeld[/b], quoted by pediatrician [b]Leonard Stern[/b], in [i]“The Collapse of Parenting,”[/i][b] Ibid.[/b] [center]

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[b]See also[/b] [b][c=#BF0000][i]“I [Becky] Am A Strict Mom”[/i][/c][/b] https://similarworlds.com/2327115-I-Am-A-Strict-Mom/585015-Being-a-strict-Mom-means-more-than-setting-limits

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kinkymech · M

back to spare the rod and spoil the child.. give the little bastards a good spanking :)

PhoenixPhail · M

@kinkymech How is it for you - living in the dark ages?

beckychandler · F

@kinkymech I wouldn't call them "little bastards", but in my opinion there should be a lot more spanking going on -- not that spanking is the end all and be all of hierarchical parenting. As discussed in [i]"I Am A Strict Mom"[/i] ( SW link above) -- spanking is actually a symptom.

MaybeTooNarcissistic · 22-25, M

I was spanked up until a few years ago, when I kind of "grew out of it." It helped me not be spoiled, and it didn't make me hate my parents. I'm a teenager, I have some arguments with my parents and I hate school and all that. That stuff's normal. When the mom buys her kid everything the kid wants, that's some B.S. right there. I don't mind not getting things, and if I really want it, I'll go mow a few lawns and buy it myself.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

I agree... You're the parent, act like it

therighttothink50 · 56-60, M

Stern is wrong, the parents today are the evil technocrats in lab white coats, the massive government frankenstein and the google/facebook/twitter/amazon monopoly which looks to control your every thought. Indoctrination is a powerful weapon of the global police state.

beckychandler · F

@therighttothink50 No he is right, but so are you. Stern is advocating the hierarchical societal structure which has traditionally existed in the West – in which the family is the primary social unit, which is based on subsidiarity –where the higher structure does not do what the lower can. Primary societal power and responsibility resides in the family --in the parents -- who are, for the most part, not interfered with by the state.

What has happened is all intervening institutions between the state and the individual (including the final and most important – the family) have been eliminated or minimized – and parents have effectively become agents of the state and its technocracy.

Helicopter parents hover over their children's every minute -- regulating their lives -- protecting these spoiled brats from society; and the big bad world and its natural law. Does that sound familiar?

It should –the modern State is that helicopter parent -- hovering over its undisciplined children who are busy indulging in their libertine and materialistic "freedom"

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