I Need Emotional Intimacy

I honestly believe it is our instinct our inborn nature, our natural need to reproduce the species. Of course now, with so many people, that need is pretty much gone--we will survive without me or you producing lots of offspring. I have found that after the initial appearance attraction, personality and interests trump (sorry) outer beauty...inner beauty is more enduring.

I need emotional intimacy too <3

Men are very visual. You may captivate them, initially, with your physical traits, but then you blow them away by stimulating them intellectually, and wrap it all together with a dash of humor and a loving heart.

Don't take this as critical because you are a beautiful woman, but some men are drawn to the forbidden. Seeing all f they can tempt the married woman into doing something naughty. Or it could be as simple as you're hot, we men are really not that complicated

I have much lesser life experience than you ... but still taking a stab ..
i think any appreciation of another human starts with visual appreciation .. once you like someone by vision, then you gather courage to talk .. talking leads to more knowing .. more knowledge leads to more acquaintance .. more acquaintance to understanding the substance behind the exterior beauty ..
I think it's immature to expect to know the substance without getting to know someone .. so beauty is the one that attracts someone to the real substance and not the other way round ..
Meaning, beauty is skin deep .. you cannot possibly be attracted to gorgeous pancreas but once you are attracted and you stay on for more, the substance comes to the fore ;)
Btw, not everyone likes the same looks and its always comparative to the audience or comparative beauties around (same goes for men too btw) and also, it take time to develop eyes for someone .. but the first glance is and always will be purely visual in my humble opinion :)

there isn't ANYTHING more important than emotional intimacy, it is a requirement for love

For me, emotional intimacy is essential. I can admire a pretty face, but I can fall in love with a beautiful, connected mind. Emotional intimacy can be silence, a look, a touch, an all-night conversation, an absence, a sigh. For me, these are all earned. But that's just me! :)

It's a guy thing. We are more into looks, I wouldn't say we are JUST into looks.

Its the first thing we notice, but not the last

For me there initially has to be a physical attraction to want to get to know a prospective partner. Then you connect on a deeper level and see where it goes.
But what I deem attractive might not be what others do.
Plenty of good looking psychos out there though.....women and men. 😐

There are those of us men that are attracted to confidence rather than looks. Give me a full figured gal that oozes confidence over a skinny boned Barbie doll any day! But that's just me. And she has to know how to please her man, and the reverse is also mandatory.

Because unfortunately a lot of men think looks are everything. I myself would rather be with an average woman I'm into in every way, emotionally, sexually etc. than some supermodel who's about as deep as a puddle

I believe most men are initially basing thoughts and attractions from looks. Though I also believe that is short lived and if there's nothing outstanding behind the pretty facade then it soon ends afterwards.

I guess we're always trying to find that beautiful, sexy, lady, that has a personality too.

They're amazingly much harder to find than we tend to anticipate.

As an aside, I've had great sex with gorgeous women that I couldn't stand personally beyond their natural beauty and sexiness.

Don't take me too seriously. I like to vent sometimes.

Well speaking purely as an Irishman firstly,Looks where never vital so to speak yeh we all want someone pretty on our arms be it male or female,but I do try to remember what me mother used ta say,Son always remember true beauty comes from within,because us women over the years do dry up n shrivel some,whilst ye men grow old in a distinguished way,age just creep in on ye lot

Everyone crave for emotional intimacy

Some men are focused only on looks. But many of us are looking at the entire package. Her smile, her dancing eyes, the way she carries herself, her intelligence, and of course her beauty. And attitude is everything! No matter how pretty she is, if her personality is like a rock, goodbye!

It’s not so much looks but personality. A big smile, laughter, playful gestures. One can be drop dead gorgeous and naked but if they sit there expecting me to entertain them, i’m out of there. I like a fun person that can express themselves and take the lead sometimes.

It is "wired" into our genetic code. We are coded to pick those that help guarantee the future of the human race!

So, here is my thought on this. This site is a great place to demonstrate how personality triumphs over looks. For me, when Im getting to know someone on here, because I cant see them, its ALWAYS the personality that hooks me. But that's just me.

The way I see it, physical attraction is the first impression. It's human nature to be drawn to what we see as favorable. You have to know somebody to be emotionally attracted to them. It's a natural phenomenon that unfortunately tends to dictate life for many people.

are you saying you're better looking than you friends?

Personally a girl can be gorgeous but if she's got nothing about her other than looks I wouldn't be interested. I quite like plain girls with a brain and personality.

For me, physical is just a piece of the equation. I look for similar interests and objectives in life. An ease of communication. Nothing sucks worse than conversation thats strained. Lastly... humor.

I have to say I agree with you and I found that I do look for spark and I have often found that through conversations rather than looks. Each to their own I suppose.

you are right. I too feel the same. I believe that love affection or a desire to be intimate with someone can be managed with average looks also .. because it depends on our mind and thoughts or you can say what we want to see in a person. If a guy want to see her beauty he can do..and naturally the feelings will come.
I respect each woman on this earth and I believe she has the enough power to arouse a man if she decide.
A real man never make a woman feel bad for her looks.but should always appreciate.

It's a huge part of our indoctrination. It's part of the human condition for guys to be physically attracted to women. That's nature's way of assuring procreation. But the corporate world hijacks and promotes that condition, making billions off of it. Everything is sold with sex, subverting its original and natural purpose. And it's easy for guys (and women - that's the other side of the same coin) to fall prey to the scheme.

The attraction for a male is different to the attraction for a female, like in nature, there are certain elements of beauty in the female form that the male does not posses. Then of course there are different grades of beauty, visible only to the observer, and you probably have a different grade of beauty. As mentioned by OWTFWN, the nude is a good example of that beauty, being female.

Emotional intimacy is just as important as physical intimacy in some cases more important

Guys are more visual like it or not. However, they usually, if good guys back off if they know she is happily married , not intrested, or if she is a bitch, because after awhile looks cannot make up for that.
I heard from many guys even a plain woman will becomes beautiful to them if she has a kind heart or a winning personality given time.

Because most men not all can't see beyond looks sadly

Looks have always been secondary to me.

Molly they liked flirting with a married woman. They where wishing that they where the ones. That put had sanged you. Do guys still flirt with you now that the ring is off.

Guys are visual ....

You can't really control what others do. And they were drinking, so less control there. Also, the bar and club scene is going to be about being more superfluous, so that shouldn't be a surprise.

Guys are wired that way... that said, it's not too much to expect that as mature adults they develop a deeper interest in women, and all their amazing characteristics, as well as to respect marriage.

I think it's because we want to have a goodtime and it's the atractive girls that are the most out going. I like all kinds of womem there hasn't been one that I regret getting to know.

I think it's in human DNA and nature too that, they attract to something beautiful, I feel it's natural law, human tend to attract to any beautiful things 😊

there is so many more things to a person then just looks personally i am more into who the person is looks have nothing to do with why i would be with someone

stop showing cleavage and find the better class of men.

We've all got Vaginas, go for a woman with brains!!

Simple. You must be hotter than them!!!

I am sure you enjoyed the attention

Whats on the inside is what counts!!