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Magenta · F
Thanks.
I agree with DMN, he doesn't give a realistic view of a people pleaser. When you're being a people pleaser, you're being fake, manipulative and inauthentic. But you will have a lot of people who like you. It will be mistaken for "kindness". Although there may be an element of that as well.
P.S. Although I can certainly see how they would attract a narcissist. It would boost their ego and self worth X100, which is what they live for.
I agree with DMN, he doesn't give a realistic view of a people pleaser. When you're being a people pleaser, you're being fake, manipulative and inauthentic. But you will have a lot of people who like you. It will be mistaken for "kindness". Although there may be an element of that as well.
P.S. Although I can certainly see how they would attract a narcissist. It would boost their ego and self worth X100, which is what they live for.
SW-User
Interesting. Had a girlfriend that was a people pleaser, yikes. Does that mean I'm a narc? 😱 lol. He puts too much of a positive spin on it. Ya can't be a people pleaser and be real.
berangere · 80-89, F
@SW-User true, people pleasers are not real as they keep ignoring their own needs to acommodate others, You must be real to yourself,if your girlfriend was a people pleaser does not mean you were a narc unless you habitually took advantage of that trait in her.
SW-User
@berangere Nah don't think I did. I got tired of the people pleasing insecurity tho.