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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
She is never going to be what you want her to be.
As she's proven to you again and again and again.
Why ? Well it sounds like she was no more than a child (in her thinking) herself when she had you.
How can parents be this way ? Well, on that one you'll unlikely find the answer. Unless she has a moment of clarity and can understand it herself.
Parenting is hard work. Some folk just aren't cut out for it. They have too many wants and needs of their own that can't be met no matter WHAT they get up to in life.
Look at it this way. How many other people do you imagine she's met, gone through and left since you came along ?
18 years is a long time. I bet it runs into dozens ! Dozens of partners she may have told she loved and then for whatever reason, left. Inconsolable.
We all want our parents to be the people we imagine them to be.
And it's the saddest day in a child's life when we finally figure out they just never will be.
Time to take a deep breath. Consider those whom perhaps you've been treating poorly since you've had this obsession. Try and apologize. And then move on.
Because nothing will change for the better until you do.
As she's proven to you again and again and again.
Why ? Well it sounds like she was no more than a child (in her thinking) herself when she had you.
How can parents be this way ? Well, on that one you'll unlikely find the answer. Unless she has a moment of clarity and can understand it herself.
Parenting is hard work. Some folk just aren't cut out for it. They have too many wants and needs of their own that can't be met no matter WHAT they get up to in life.
Look at it this way. How many other people do you imagine she's met, gone through and left since you came along ?
18 years is a long time. I bet it runs into dozens ! Dozens of partners she may have told she loved and then for whatever reason, left. Inconsolable.
We all want our parents to be the people we imagine them to be.
And it's the saddest day in a child's life when we finally figure out they just never will be.
Time to take a deep breath. Consider those whom perhaps you've been treating poorly since you've had this obsession. Try and apologize. And then move on.
Because nothing will change for the better until you do.
ThePerfectUsername · 70-79, M
What @Picklebobble2 said Izzy. You mother simply isn't your mother and it doesn't look like she's any intention of being one. A mother supports you, tries to teach you right from wrong, they put food on the table every day and clean up after you. And from what I can see the only person you've ever had that does any of that has been your aunt. And the sooner you acknowledge that and start behaving like a daughter to your aunt the sooner you'll find peace.