I Come From a Broken Family

I just wanted to talk about how my aunts husband cheated on her and had a baby with another woman, the woman loved him and lied to him about taking birth control when she was not. it broke up my entire family, my grandparents two of them died.i am not allowed to talk or see my cousins or aunt.I just hate the fact that i'm not allowed to see them, i really enjoyed being with my cousin when she was a kid but her parents were together and in a happy marriage. i feel like i don't know much of my family besides one grandma and grandpa. I am afraid when i get married my husband will cheat on me. my mom thinks that people are not supposed to be monogamous and they should be allowed to cheat otherwise they will divorce, that really scares me because i don't want this situation to happen to me. can anyone try to help me get over this fear? i just hope that people are supposed to be monogamous but i can not seem to convince myself of it because my best friends parents were divorced, all four of my grandparents are divorced and my mom wanted to divorce my dad when i was a kid. cheating is the worst thing that can happen to me, but divorce is bad too.

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

Studies and surveys show that about 70-80% of husbands have cheated on their wives after 5 years of marriage. That's pretty daunting to any woman who wants a man who is faithful. On the other hand, statistically that means 20-30% of husbands [i]do not[/i] cheat on their wives. That's a lot! So, take heart. There are plenty of faithful types out there. Just decide to get good at finding faithful, honest, steady dependable men and pick one of those. They are not always the most exciting or charming ones. Take time to get to really know a man. Observe what kind of friends he has. Listen to what he says about men he knows who are faithful and who are not. Find a man who is truly ready to leave the single life behind when he married. Men like that exist. You just have to be patient enough to find one and sensible enough to pick one and to have him choose you.

SW-User

I'm sorry your family got broken up like that :( I truly hope your future husband won't cheat on you, and you won't need to get a divorce

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SW-User

It's ok ^_^ I know it is, but I can promise you that if it were me, I wouldn't cheat on you :)

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

@Kiwi-Dan: thank you :)

SW-User

@Girlyfriendcollecting: You're welcome *hugs* 🤗

Danez · M

Sorry for how your family has kept you apart from your cousins. Adults think they are doing the right thing when they make rules like that but they just don't take into account how the kids feel.
Aside from that don't psych yourself out thinking that the husband you haven't even met will treat you badly. It's up to you. If you expect good treatment with love and respect and you give that in return then there's no reason to believe you won't have it. Strive to have a relationship that is even better than what you grew up with.

Girlyfriendcollecting · F

thank you🙂

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